Reba

Hi Reba,
Thanks for your hug.
I lost eight different pregnancies. The first was a little girl with Trisomy 22. The second one, which I found out had died 5 years ago to day, was a boy. We have no idea why he died. The other 6 were not very far a long. I finally found a wonderful doctor who took such loving care of me. He treated me for different things that can cause pregnancy loss. I also knew I was supposed to have a baby. I did have one and she is the joy of my life.
Kitty

Reba we had hospice for my Father( whom I dearly loved) and they were nothing but wonderful!!! My Dad was diagnosed with bone metastasis in June and died the 25th of July. He was almost 86 bless his heart and I would have kept him forever. He did not want to eat and we did not force him. I would offer various things and when he said NO we did not make him. Please KNOW you are in my thoughts... take care, J

Corn bread ... That's a winner!
I wish you so much good luck. Anything that will soothe the digestive system.

I'm with you with whatever we can do.

mary

Hi Reba ~
I usaully am on "grossed out" thread.
Certified Animal Lover too!

When Mom was going thru chemo, food was the last thing she wanted.
Best thing I found was blending fresh peaches with yogurt or Ensure.

I am aching for your situation.

Thinking of you,
Mary AKA, Rip, Sir & many pets

Hi Reba, I take care of my mother who has AD an it is difficult. I can not imagine how difficult it would be to take the AD journey with the one who built a life. Good luck in all you do.

take care Reba... you are in my prayers...

Hang in there!!!

Hello again Reba
Your husband is in very bad condition, isn't he. I am glad you have the help of one sister and one daughter but won't there come a time when it will be impossible to keep your husband at home? Not that I'm doubting you but I find it hard to believe that keeping your husband in a decent institution in time will cost SO much per month. I am pretty positive it doesn't cost Albertans that much but of course in Canada we have an excellent health system AT THE PRESENT TIME and we are having to fight to keep it that way. If President Obama's health measures were passed, would that help you? Or would it be cheaper for you to hire some nursing assistants to help you out in your home when the time comes that you need additional help. I know what you mean about the caregiver dying before the one that needs the care. Please take any steps you can to prevent that from happening to you. Love lcs

Hi Reba
How long has your husband needed extra care? What stage is he at now? I sometimes think that my husband is starting to be like his grandfather who had dementia. My husband is having more and more trouble staying "organized" (can't keep the days straight, is mislaying things, forgets to do up his fly etc.) and he is always tired. When he drops off to sleep sitting up on the couch he looks just like his grandfather did. It is rather weird to see one's husband starting to turn into his grandfather. I don't know if my husband recognizes the similarities or not.
I am glad you have your three doggies - pets are always a comfort, I find. It sounds like you have interesting hobbies too. Does your husband enjoy listening to you playing the organ? May you have a good day. lcs

Reba,
I sense from your response to Denise that you may be going through or have gone through the same kind of problems. I can only tell you from my own experience that fighting and getting lawyers or police involved in family spats only makes things worse for the elderly who need care and support from their children--not more grief. It is different if one of the kids is abusing or stealing from the parent. Then YOU have to get the law involved, but not when it is just disagreement about doing the right thing by mom or dad. Sometimes all you can do is agree to disagree and walk away peacefully for the sake of the ill parents. That is why a Family Meeting is the best solution so everyone hears the same thing at the same time. Otherwise they will pick each other apart without ever confronting the real issue: How do we all do right by mom and dad?