Reba

Hang in there!!!

Hello again Reba
Your husband is in very bad condition, isn't he. I am glad you have the help of one sister and one daughter but won't there come a time when it will be impossible to keep your husband at home? Not that I'm doubting you but I find it hard to believe that keeping your husband in a decent institution in time will cost SO much per month. I am pretty positive it doesn't cost Albertans that much but of course in Canada we have an excellent health system AT THE PRESENT TIME and we are having to fight to keep it that way. If President Obama's health measures were passed, would that help you? Or would it be cheaper for you to hire some nursing assistants to help you out in your home when the time comes that you need additional help. I know what you mean about the caregiver dying before the one that needs the care. Please take any steps you can to prevent that from happening to you. Love lcs

Hi Reba
How long has your husband needed extra care? What stage is he at now? I sometimes think that my husband is starting to be like his grandfather who had dementia. My husband is having more and more trouble staying "organized" (can't keep the days straight, is mislaying things, forgets to do up his fly etc.) and he is always tired. When he drops off to sleep sitting up on the couch he looks just like his grandfather did. It is rather weird to see one's husband starting to turn into his grandfather. I don't know if my husband recognizes the similarities or not.
I am glad you have your three doggies - pets are always a comfort, I find. It sounds like you have interesting hobbies too. Does your husband enjoy listening to you playing the organ? May you have a good day. lcs

Reba,
I sense from your response to Denise that you may be going through or have gone through the same kind of problems. I can only tell you from my own experience that fighting and getting lawyers or police involved in family spats only makes things worse for the elderly who need care and support from their children--not more grief. It is different if one of the kids is abusing or stealing from the parent. Then YOU have to get the law involved, but not when it is just disagreement about doing the right thing by mom or dad. Sometimes all you can do is agree to disagree and walk away peacefully for the sake of the ill parents. That is why a Family Meeting is the best solution so everyone hears the same thing at the same time. Otherwise they will pick each other apart without ever confronting the real issue: How do we all do right by mom and dad?

thinkin about you today , decided to give you a hug . hope youre doing ok and that ed is in no pain and is comfertable .
take care and stay warm xoxo

dear reba , hope you and ed are doing ok , just wondering about you . thought maybe you need a hug today ,
thinkin of you and praying for you and ed ...

happy new year reba !
hope this year be a better year for us all.
:-)

Thanks for all the hugs. You all bless my heart. I sure give you a hug back. God be with all of you and help you as you try to take care of your loved ones.

Thanks for the kind words : )

A big hug to you for your caring heart, and have a great day or night as the case may be.
Fernando