I left country 5 months ago for my healing journey. It has been better than perfect! You can find my previous posts. I lived with my mother and was caregiver for several years. She fell last summer sustaining a sub dural bleed. Siblings moved in taking over out of guilt mostly, I believe. The situation became ugly. One particular vile brother turned her against me. He is a sick human and needs pity. He asked me in an email how it felt to know I would never see her again and that she did not want to see me!
I was evicted, scorned and treated so ugly that most people I tell the story to are appalled, as it is almost hard to comprehend. Six siblings stuck together. Not one came to my aid because they were ALL guilty of neglect when it came to her well being, leaving it up to me solely. I was t nothing to do with any of them, ever!
I have had a joyous journey, but now I return home which I dread. I think she is still alive. I cannot decide if I should try to see her or assume she is gone, since that was my acceptance 5 months ago. I have shed tears, over her, yet was fortunate to have so many happy, joyous moments meeting lovely people and being in happy places.
I keep asking the question if I should try to see her, but I truly do not know. She had a brain injury, as well as dementia. I just do not know how she will treat me and I feel I need to protect my own feelings. I do not plan to stay in area long, and will not attend any funeral services.
Ideas from anyone?
I plan to leave the area for good, once I get back and reoriented.
What really stinks is that she is of the belef I am the bad person, since my evil rich, controlling brother, isolated her and groomed her. He showed he my angry emails, but has no idea all the lies, name calling wnd threats I endured. Not sure it matters at this point as I never had a fighting chance.
Sadly, I think they have done little. My spies tell me they put her in assisted living, so once again, they let someone else do the dirty work at the tune of 7000k a month. I got nothing but grief and my career shattered! I heard also trom confidantes, that i believe they were trying to figure out where I am! Maybe they are killing each other! They do not have me to pick on any more!
In my travels, I met a psychotherspist and his wife, who I spentba day
That's a good question, whether to see your mother again or not. I checked one of your previous postings, before you left on your journey, after caring for your Mom for 20 years, and that life wasn't easy.
I would be afraid that all the bad memories and scorn would resurface after you were able to put them aside. It could be since your mother had dementia, she might not even know you at this point in time.
Wouldn't you have loved to have been a fly on the wall when the siblings took over the care of your mother. Bet they were all in for a surprise, and now are probably thinking how in the world did one person have the physical and emotional energy to take care of their mother. Have any of the siblings tried to reach out to you?