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How do I know if I should put my elderly parents into an Assisted Living Facility or Nursing Home?

Asked by karenm | Dec 27, 2009

Hi--How does one know what type of care is best for their parents? MY sisters and I aren't sure if nursing home or assisted living is right for our parents-is this the doctor's decision?
How do I find out what the ratings are for senior care facilities? Are they rated as clean, good care, etc.?
Thank you,
Karen

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Diana09

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Dec 27, 2009

Karenm, If your parents are ready to go somewhere, definitely assisted living gives them a lot more freedom and feeling of independence. It would probably need to be a joint decision among you siblings, your parents and the doctors if they are connected to them. (Some docs today stay pretty disconnected to the patients, as I'm sure you know.) My parents are having such a difficult time making a decision. They have gone back and forth for two years now, alternating between "Put us somewhere now, we can't do this any longer!" and "We just want to stay here in our house and die right here!" Well, of course, that would be anybody's wishes. But they are just one flu bug or fall away from them both being incapacitated. Mom does the thinking for Dad, so when she is ill, Dad is lost and helpless. Their constant changing of their minds is excruciating for me, as their main support, but I certainly can understand it. They have been married nearly 65 years. Wasn't there a song about "Sparrows in the Wind" that talked about this situation? It is very tough to be part of this. The indecision is awful.

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RNCareManager

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Jan 5, 2010

Hello Karen,

What state are you in?

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tifnyz

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Jun 12, 2010