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Carol Bradley Bursack, Aug 24, 2010
Over the span of two decades author, columnist and speaker Carol Bradley Bursack cared for a neighbor and six elderly family members. Because of this experience, Bradley Bursack created a portable support group, the book “Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories.” Her sites, www.mindingourelders.com and www.mindingoureldersblogs
Does anyone in your family have a Power Of Attorney? That's important. If one of your sisters does, she may just be paying things for your mother, though there should be accountablity.
If you really suspect stealing, you could first ask if there can be a family accounting "for everyone's protection, as Medicaid will want that should she need to go on Medicaid" (true).
If you want to challenge it further, you'll likely need an elder law attorney. Good luck. This is very difficult for you and, if it's not the case, then difficult to "fix" broken relationships. So, try to figure out if your suspicions are really valid before you move forward.Carol
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N1K2R3
Give a Hug
Aug 24, 2010
Get POA and hide her money.
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AlzCaregiver
You could place a point and shoot camera on a shelf and just have it running...eventually you might catch something. Get one that will run for the entire length of the card/battery. YOu might leave out brochure about protecting against Financial Elder Abuse...subtle hint that you are watching.
nannaspoon2
May 5, 2011
What can you do if your sister open a checking account naming herself as co owner of said account making it legal to take money from this bank account, put it in a cd with her being co owner of the account. My mother has dementia and she now deny that the account belong to my mother that it is her account that she named my mother on the account but I found where $3,000. was taken out of my mother's account and put in the cd account. I don't want to tear this family apart and cause my mother or myself any more hardship as I am her caregiver and get hardly any support from my siblings, my hands are full. but my mom is on a fixed income and I know she will need what she has as time goes on. I was living in Georgia and had to quit my job and move to Alabama to take care of my mom. Alabama offers no financial assistance for family caregivers and what little income goes toward trying to keep my home in Georgia from going into foreclosure and squeeze in a few toiletries for myself. Taking care of my mother is a full time job and it is even more difficult with greedy siblings throwing in the mix.
NoVoice
Jul 7, 2011
Our younger sister convinced our Mom to give her POA and healthcare POA even though she(our sister) declared bankruptcy and has gotten money from Mom several times, one time $10000, no NOT loans. In the draft for the legal papers, Mom WAIVED her rights for the POA to have to submit reports legally nor to anyone. THIS CLAUSE SHOULD BE OUTLAWED because it is the 'trusting' parent who would NEVER believe their loving child would take advantage of them that enables elder fraud of a parent.
So legally my older sister and I are at the mercy of our sister in regards to information, and can only pray she doesn't start transferring funds to her own personal accounts.
She used to send us copies of the bank statements until we had a disagreement and she cut off communication with us. We told her we didn't trust her after she accused US of wanting to 'help Mom' for the 'money'. Sounds like truth was too close to a nerve.
not sure what we can do.... Mom totally believes whatever our younger sister tells her.
Jul 8, 2011
Nannaspoon: What Federal ( National ) Bank would allow the opening of a Checking Account without proper papers of identification and representation of all parties on the account? No Notary Public would "seal" the opening of the account without corresponding docs AND " hereby stands before me" signed into the opening.
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