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My mother’s health is declining from caring for my father. She was given the option of placing him in a nursing home. What can we do if she refused but needs help?

Asked by flo118919 | Aug 16, 2010

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Carol Bradley Bursack, Aug 18, 2010

Over the span of two decades author, columnist and speaker Carol Bradley Bursack cared for a neighbor and six elderly family members. Because of this experience, Bradley Bursack created a portable support group, the book “Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories.” Her sites, www.mindingourelders.com and www.mindingoureldersblogs

This is common - she feels it's her duty to care for him. But she needs to realize that if she gets sick or dies first, she won't be able to care for him at all. In a nursing home, she would still be a caregiver - just part of a team. Please try to get her faith community leader or some good friend - any third party she trust - to talk with her and help her understand that it's best for both of them to get help.

Carol

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MiaMadre

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Aug 16, 2010

Talk to them about getting into an assisted living facility where they can both get the care that they need and deserve.

Perhaps advising your mother that if something happened to her, what would happen to Dad? She can tour facilities with you (if you are local) so she can see just how convenient it can be.

Assisted Living facilities with varying levelsof support can really be just what she needs. Its worth a try.

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