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Mom,is 89 has slight dementia. Wears a poise pad all day & at nite. She slide off, her bed day before. But, is fine. Except for saying she, heard a man singing with beautiful voice. Her, mind seems good to me. Just, wondered if, nite time bed wetting, going to be a regular thing? Or,hard to say. Pat

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Hi all, thanks for all comments. She had bladder infection months ago. She hasn't had another incident since(bed soaking). She does have Dr appt. this month. HUGS
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Please also consider giving your mom coconut oil to help improve her mind. Mary Newport, an MD, gave her husband about 1 and 1/2 tablespoons daily of coconut oil. In two weeks, her husband went from severe to moderate dementia. In a year of taking coconut oil, his dementia was almost completely healed. She put the coconut oil in his oatmeal.
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One additional comment re this subject. Advice above was given about limiting liquids which is another very good reason to make sure that a UTI is not in the picture. Limiting liquids while battling a UTI can make things worse. Again, MIL did this herself thinking that she would have to go less if she drank less. That would hold true if she simply had more trouble holding it, but with a UTI it make the infection worse when liquids were withheld. She just had to be kept very clean and changed frequently while not cutting back on liquids. It is sad and difficult to see your parent dealing with this and trying to help them manage it. I might add here that for those of us 'not there yet', men and women, doing kegel exercises NOW is very important. Note to self.
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What does your doctor say? UTI's in elderly people do not have the same symptoms as with younger folks. She also may have some continence issues that medication would help with. My now deceased MIL had many problems with these issues and although as a very elderly person she had some memory issues, I do not believe that had anything to do with it. She was embarrassed about having to ask for help to the bathroom (two broken hips and mostly wheelchair bound), urgency that made her feel a strong urge to go and no time to get there (meds helped but she needed to be well managed to make her take them - she thought they were 'expensive' even though she had insurance and also didn't like taking a lot of pills, which she had to do). She also wore pads rather than pull ups, again, because she thought they were expensive. She had lost her sense of smell to so she couldn't tell that having these issues caused any one any discomfort but herself. Don't know your mom but I am only submitting there could be a number of things that could be causing this. I'd talk to your doctor.
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Patnickel, both of my parents have dementia, and at age 90 both have become incontinent. We have Dad wearing the Depends for men. They have a version that fit like briefs, and Dad likes them. For Mom we tried Depends, but they just didn't do the job. On this forum we found out about Abena Abri-form briefs, which you can buy on Amazon. Mom loves these, and calls them her "softie diapers." The are very comfortable, will absorb whatever she puts in them, and she still feels dry. They keep the bed dry as well.

In addition to the great diapers, we put a mattress pad on the bed thatcovers the entire mattress and zips to keep it in place. In addition, we use cotton pads with a waterproof backing that can be thrown in the washer and dryer and re-used. These are more comfortable for her to sleep on than the disposable ones. We also buy these on Amazon. We also use these pads for them to sit on during the day, which keeps the furniture dry, just in case. Good luck!
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Seacoast69, it's common with Dads too. My 91 y.o. father has to wear a full Depends brief and a Depends guard at all times. We go through lots of them, especially at night. Use a waterproof mattress pad, limit liquids after dinner, and remind him to use the bathroom on a regular basis.
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I usually do not let mom have any liquids after 7pm and she is in bed by 8pm. I go to Sam's Store and by the adult pull ups in bulk, seems to be cheaper. I also have some blue pads I put under the sheets to catch any accidents. So far so good. (I did not know about the Amazon order, good to know)
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I see everyone talking about their mom's, but is this common with males also ? I have experienced what I know of with my dad in a restaurant. He may have had some overnight accidents I'm not aware of ?
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Yes...it's very typical to wet the bed every night. My grandma wets the bed every single night and she has dementia. During the day I will regularly ask her if she needs to use the bathroom...sometime she'll try on the toilet, but most times she goes in her adult underwear. Most times when I check her, she needs to be changed. She has no awareness that she's either wet or dry. Overnights are the worst, and I usually have to change her shirt and pants and wash her down in the mornings from pee everywhere.

I've been able to keep the bed clean with a waterproof pad, and then disposable bed pads on top of that....but she is always a mess. When this all started happening, I had her tested for UTI's as well, and they're negative. Sometimes it's a normal thing I guess. I've started reducing her liquids toward bed time, and it has helped reduce some of the mess in the mornings. For example, she used to drink an Ensure before bed as a dessert, but it was contributing to the bed-wetting, so now I give her chocolate pudding instead, and she's just as satisfied. Yes, she still has the accidents every night, but they're not as bad. Good luck!
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Could be a UTI, could also be part of the process. Is it not that we all return as like little children?
Moment to moment....I know no other way.
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When my mom starts wetting, she usually has a UTI. Has that been checked?
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Mom started out wearing regular undies and sanitary pads and was saturated most of the time. As she went deeper in to dementia I finally got her in to Depends Silhouettes and they work great. Sometimes she uses the bathroom and sometimes not. Now 18 months later she is wet at night all the time and I have gone to Tranquility Premium Overnight Pullups. I just started them this month. They advertise to hold 34 ounces. Mom wears them with no complaint. They work most of the time but they work best when I put a super size generic Poise in as well. I now I get her Depends on Amazon on a subscription basis and they send a case every month. I get a discount for the subscription. When I have extra for a months worth I can skip a mailing. It is great. I will be adding the overnight ones as well nto the subscription. I also put a garbage bag under the mattress pad. Even though it says it is water proof sometimes she goes so much it soaks through.
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Hi Patnickel, is this the question you were referring to when you said you couldn't find it?

Check around, there are health care supply shops that sell *blue sheets* and/or other items to use to keep the bed a bit dryer. If possible don't have your Mom drink any liquid a few hours before bed time.... if she takes night time pills, see if she can take the pills around dinner time.... check with her doctor first.
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