How can I get my father to accept home health care?

well...thats a big one are there people in the family that will help him. or can you get ahold of state and have them come and talk to him and tell him what he will be up against if this keep going

Oh thank you msdiva!! I am calling home health care tomorrow. They will come out and talk with him. But i am quite sure that he will still refuse to have them help him. Tell me what he will be up against if this keeps up. Are you talking about other health problems? He swears he can walk, and bathe if he wants to. He just doesn't want to. His feet are like two balloons! I just am almost crazy with worry and I am on oxygen myself. My Mom is there(they are divorced) during the day. My other siblings are all trying to convince him that he needs to take care of this problem by letting others help. He insists that he can do it. Any suggestions?

ok i have been in situation like this with others i am a caregiver i used to be my dads but he is passed now..sometimes u half to stretch the truth in these kinda things now what i meant is what he against the odor it can cause him to get sick not bathing espeically, you said ur mother is there doing the day,ok she can get sick, Mmmm u said his feet are like balloons does he have gout? thats not good at all he has some bad circulatiom in him..if this keeps up he can be taken iut or you can go against him scare him alittle sometimes you half to do this in order for them to take care..and what i mean as going against help is legal situation if it get any worst

Some home health agencies can provide a male assistant. Contact several & ask specifically. Is there a working heater in the bath, are there grab bars, a tub bench or shower chair, soap
& towelsor robe in easy reach, a place to sit once he has exited the bath or shower, a non-slip bath mat? Walk yourself through the bath routine and see if you can spot potential risks, difficulties, inconveniences, embarrassments that your father might have to contend with. Does he have range of motion problems that would make bathing uncomfortable. Sometimes seniors can't articulate just why they avoid bathing; sometimes they are just reluctant to admit having limitations. That's where an outside caregiver might be able to get to the bottom of your dad's poor hygiene practices.

Thank you Mariannette! My Dad has no range of motion at all. He can barely make it to the bathroom for personal evacuations. He is very embarrassed(his age group) to let someone see him w/out clothing. I think a bath in his undies would be better than none at all. I am not sure if the agency I have contacted has a male nurse for these kind of duties. But, I am sure going to ask. He could not even be able to get in the tub by himself. His feet and knees and hips wouldn't allow that activity. Any more ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again for your suggestions and ideas and that is for everyone that has gave me ideas and advice. Keep the ideas coming! :)

yes mariannete them are good ones

well mariannete gave some good ones and yes a male caregiver would be good

Hi--From what I understand, if you can get him to go to a senior center---some od them do personal grooming right there (if you think this is an option)..Can someone in you local department of aging also give you some suggestions on ways to deal with this problem, it may be worth giving them a call.

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Think role reversal: what would your father do if you were the one needing care and resisting it? Yes! exactly. So you do what you gotta do to ensure he gets the care he needs regardless of what he says because you love him anyway. Sometimes real love is as cold and hard as steel. And don't be afraid to bring in Authority figures like his doctor, the Local Dept for Aging. They can lay it on the line for him: Either accept home care or you will be committed to an institution. God bless!

It depends on whether your Dad is still in his right mind or not. Could it be that your Dad is embarrassed? In which case a male CNA might do wonders. Have an open talk with your Dad and explain to him the options he has- Home Health, caregiver in the home to help, nursing home- take your pick.