How can I get my manipulative older brother out of my parent's house before he hurts one of them?

Chamge the locks and get a restraining order against him. If he violates it, and he probably will, call the police who will arrest him and put him in a rehab.. By all means get him out of the house NOW!

I am in the law enforcement field and what you need to do is an eviction on anyone that has lived in the home for more than 30 days. Then you can possibally get a restraining order or he can be issued a criminal trespass warning, then he can be arrested if he returns.

the one thing you have to do is call adult protective services, they will be able to assist law enforcement agencies to make sure he is not able to hurt your mom and dad.

I agree with everyone else take legal steps to have him removed. I would be careful about telling him though, because he may blame them and hurt your parents, or steal from them. Honestly ain't life grand at times...Adult protective services or the department on aging in your state is a good place to start... take care, J

It seems your parents age and health has made them unable to rid themselves of an unhealthy situation. Adult Protective Services is the best place to start. Does anyone have POA? If so, that individual can proceed with eviction proceedings.

I agree this is one time you need APS and call your local police to ask their advice. Everyone should be on board both the parents and you and your other brother.

Carol,
I think any kind of eviction proceeding along with a restraining order are tackling the wrong side of this problem. Your mother is enabling your bad brother's behavior and is likely in denial. If she is still of sound mind (sounds like her problems are only physical) then she can legally unseat the eviction and the restraining order by refusing to sign the documents unless YOU are the owner of the home and have custodial rights for your mom and dad. The solution I recommend is to get your mom and dad out of harm's way. Can you work with your local Dept of Aging to place them in an Assisted Living facility? Since your "good" brother has his own problems he may not be a fit caregiver so this will help your case. You may be able to get him into a group home where he will be safe and functional. that will leave your "bad" brother to fend for himself in a home that he neither owns nor has any financial interest in. A good estate/elder law attorney can assist you with that part but work on getting mom, dad, and good brother placed in Assisted Living first and do not give them any clues about how you will handle "bad" brother when the time comes. Oh yes! Begin to document everything bad brother does, like messing with your dad's medication or stealing money from them. You need to make a strong case for abuse if you need to get law enforcement involved. But concentrate on getting mom and dad out first.

You need to keep a close watch on him and if anything smacks of elder abuse, you can confront and call APS. Make sure that you have contacted your parents bank to make sure no shenanigans are going on. Ask them to alert you if any large amounts are withdrawn or written to your brother whom you might suspect is bordering on Elder Abuse. Be sure to spend time alone with your parents, letting them know that if they are uncomfortable with the current situation in any way to alert you. The problem is that they become dependent on him and then don't want to upset that situation. Trust your instincts and act immediately. Don't let your concerns go too long.... Geriatric Care Mgr

You know, this is the kind of thing you see on the eleven o'clock news. "Drugged out son kills family... stay tuned after this commercial break".

I like ez's suggestion of putting the focus on the parents well-being, but sometimes moving out of their home and to assisted living is not what is best. My mother has lived in the same house she and my father (he has passed away) purchased 60 years ago. I was able to find out her wishes before the AD progressed to incompetence, and her wishes were to remain at home for as long as possible. She is very comfortable in familiar surroundings. It is not fair for them to move if their wish is to remain and there are other alternatives. Seek the advice of APS, an attorney and other proffessionals and do what you believe is best. Good Luck