I live so far away…How can I still help my parents?

Oct 21, 2009

Can you bring them to live with you? If that's not possible, then you could hire a live-in service to take care of them. There are so many different places, but one I know

Hope it helps!

RightatHome

Oct 21, 2009

Have you considered hiring someone from an in-home care organization to check in with them on a regular or semi-regular basis.

Best of luck,
Bill

jimbaer

Oct 22, 2009

Perhaps the most professional way to do this is to use a Geriatric Care Manager, who acts as your agent in the area in which your loved one resides. Find one in the local telephone book, call an Area on Aging office or go on the Association's website.
Jim

CRCAIP

Oct 22, 2009

There are many Care Management companies that can visit and assess your parents needs. From that point, a care plan can be put in place to address their needs. A plan can include anything from a check-in visit, to home assistance.

erickson

Oct 22, 2009

As stated by all the other responders, I recommend hiring a geriatric care manager, social worker, or another type of caregiver to provide weekly or monthly "check ups." There may be some community resources in the area where you could get this help for free.

In addition, I think it's important for you to start "taking notes" of all of your conversations with your parents. Sometimes, when we systematically look at the issues, it gives us a clearer understanding of the presenting problems. In other words, write down your concerns/examples each conversation you have to begin a "timeline." Then, you can take this "list" and consult a private or community professional to help guide you in assessing and managing your parent's needs.

If you can get your parents to sign releases to give you permission to talk to their physicians, that would be great. Then you can find out more details as well as express your concern re: your parent's functioning. Contact me if you would like more information on that, as I have a form I can send you or you can download for free off my site.

Also, start to look into a power of attorney for health decisions to make sure that if your parent needs help, you have the legal position to make decisions.

Good luck!
Stephanie Erickson

LoisW

Oct 22, 2009

I must echo the response from other wise individuals. If you are unable to bring your parents closer to you, a geriatric care manager can be a valuable asset. Also, I encourage you, as others have before me, get those advance directives taken care of, do the durable power of attorney and healthcare proxy.