Can we start a caregiver hotline for abuse?

The issues of the elderly parent abusing the adult child must be addressed. I have been experiencing caregiver abuse for many years. Unfortunately, the society is so strongly geared to hear the opposite, that when the elderly make false accusations against caregivers the caregivers are put through the wringer by agencies and caseworkers. This is a specific warning for those of you , like me, have been dedicated to sticking with your elderly parents through all of the abuse they dish out. Their accusations can instantly ruin your family -- socially, emotionally, and financially. Your reputation can be ripped to shreds at just the drop of one false accusation, one complaint, one lie. Beware and be prepared financially to defend yourself with attorneys. And yes, it can happen to you. And it has been proven that abusive parents will most likely become even more abusive, controlling, and manipulative as they age.

We used to have assylums but now the baby boom generation herd is being thinned by forcing us to care for elderly, sometimes crazy, abusive parents.
By allowing our parents to "take us out with them", society is making us pay for our parent's sins. I am not responsible for crazy, but I am being held responsible to crazy. Do we have no rights as children of abusive parents?
I put on a happy face, do what needs doing & get spit on for it?
The children of the evil are not necessarily evil but we have to pay for it?
WRONG!!!!!!!

Who are we supposed to go to? What kind of attorney do you get? My mom has become increasingly abusive towards me (not physically). But for no reason, seems to tell neighbors and others (basically anyone who will listen) that I am stealing from her, or that I hate her, or that I am trying to take her home! I have been the one keeping my promise to her that I wouldn't put her away, wouldn't let anything happen to her, etc. I don't understand. And I get so angry with her (the disease, actually), but still go back for more! She has no one but me. But I don't want to have a legal problem for doing what any child would naturally do for someone who raised them and loves them! What are we supposed to do?

For one, don't despair. No matter how much you love your Mom, ricims05, if she is that out of control, she may be better off with professionals who are trained to care for her. The Alzheimer's organization has a 24-hour counseling hotline you may want to call. The other thing is that if it comes down to that, for your own safety, never hesitate to call for emergency (ambulance) services. Sometimes medical intervention or psychological assessment is what needs to happen. It hurts to place such a call knowing what may lie ahead, or not knowing, but fear is not the answer.
Wishing you better days ahead! Number is 1-800-272-3900.

Amen, Godhelpus and caregiversuppor
Take it from me, the daughter who recently had to get a lawyer to defend myself from my mother, it was hellish being ccused of abuse and theft by my own mother who does NOT have Alz/dementia. Stabbing me in the heart would have felt better. But by God, she's an elder so she MUST be right and I MUST be guilty. Thank the good Lord she backed off (guilt, maybe?) . . . for now. She'll be back with more lies I'm sure. That's what I have to live with, waiting for her to think of more ways to get even with me. Get this, her lawyer gives her a discount because she's elderly!!!!!
There's no hotline that I can call in my situation and even if there was one, I wouldn't trust them not to turn it all around against me. With a mother like mine, you learn to be careful who you trust.
A society who only believes one side is broken.

Amen to that AMD!

And then they have the gaul to say we abuse them???

If a person is twisted crazy....how can one say they are sane when they become seniors??? I learned first hand that just because a person turns 65 doesn't mean they get nice, sweet or innocent all of a sudden.
Are the courts in denial and deceived in all this???

Criminals and lunatics get old too!!!! For so many of the "greatest generation", this is learned behavior. They learned it from their elders, but now folks live so much longer than they used to, it's devastating on those of us who are left to care for them. Who will see our plight and come to our defence??????