Can my siblings who have Power of Attorney for my parents, tell the lawyers not to give me information concerning my parent's wills?

I have power of attorney for my dad, 94. Although he lives alone, I am his caregiver, and he has left a lot of his assets to me (only). My brother has seen him about 3 times in the past five years. They never got along. However, lately my brother has shown an "interest" in the will. My attorney told me that I do not have to disclose any details at all. There are always battles when money is involved. I guess it depends how well you get along with your siblings. You can probably hire your own attorney and hold things up for years. That way, nobody will benefit except the attorneys.

Usually wills and other finances are private matters and information is disclosed as the parents see fit. If your parents have instructed your sibs to keep their affairs private, there is not much you can do. Why do you need this information now?

Yes, your siblings can instruct the lawyers not to share your parents' will with you .... but, if your siblings are on the up-and-up, and they rightfully have Power of Attorney (as they say they do), they should be willing to prove that to you, by showing you the documentation. I have Power of Attorney for my elderly dad, and when the time comes to "show" that to my brother, I will do so.

I have Power Of Attorney over my 90 year old mother and my brother somehow was able to get a year's worth of transactions on my mother's bank account . How can that be

I'm not wondering if they ARE poa's, my brother and I just think they are using dad's money for themselves and not giving us any of what belongs to us. One of the poa's moved his son onto dads farm and at the time said that the son would pay rent, the phone is even still in dads name even though he has not lived on the farm for over two years. We think they are paying phone, electric, etc out of dads accounts.

Oh, Glo. I guess I was thinking more about splitting assets. I'm certainly not in a position to offer legal advice. But, I'm sure there is a way to subpoena payment records and if they misappropriated the money, you could probably make sure they are accountable. We recently had a case in our town where a professional caretaker was abusing P.O.A and using money for her own needs. They did catch her and she had to pay it all back into the estate. I guess it still involves a Lawyer=$$$$ Good luck. I hope things work out for you.

My brother talked my elderly mother into making him POA right after my father died. He was never involved in their lives until two days before my father died. I have lived my whole adult life 10 minutes from my parents house. When my father died he took such advantage of my mother and her mental state. Needless to say, he had her changed the will where everything goes to him.He sold her house and had her moved from NJ to a very rural place in Kentucky. Unfortunately my mother had a stroke this pass Sept. She is now in a nursing home and he is now spending my mothers money as fast as he can. If I ask him, does he have to show me what he is doing with her money?

My father and I are both POA of my grandmother/her son and he has been paying for her care up until Nov and my grandmother fell and broke her hip, My father agreed to let me move her up to a nursing home by me, well medicare stopped paying and she was private pay, my father wanted her moved back to the place she came from but dragged his feet for a few weeks. Well now she is back there and I am getting the bill for the nursing home, my father says he isn't going to pay it that I signed her in I need to pay it. Can I take him to court to get full care of her.