II was told that if my daughter helps take care of my mother, that Social Security will pay gas money and for the cost of taking care of her during the day. Is this true?

Asked by Rhondee  |  Jun 12, 2010

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officesupply

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Jun 16, 2010

Just got to this site...do they not give answers?

 
 

anonymous14017

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Jun 16, 2010

It's a good question! Money is a major problem now that I have to spend so time with my mom, Been trying to find a good 'work at home' situation but it isn't panning out.

 
 

timmyk48

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Jun 16, 2010

No I don't think that is true.
I get nothing for taking care of both my parents...if there is some way to get some financial help for doing this, I don't know about it.

 
 

JanInTexas

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Jun 16, 2010

I quit my job to take care of my mom, I know of no such benefits.

 
 

LynnPO

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Jun 16, 2010

The basic answer to your question is "not likely". The best place to find out about assistance in your state is to contact the local Area Agency on Aging. They understand the state and federal programs that are available. Generally there have been some federal funds, administered by each state, that provide some minimal help to the elderly. it's intended to help them remain at home and out of a nursing home. These funds can be used up before the end of the year so help can stop when funds run out and start up again when funds are approved. Help for specific individuals is based on financial need, their physical conditions and they must apply and be approved. It is not available for all who apply.

My mom had a gal that came in for 4 hours a week, she did some minor cleaning and ran her on errands. There was no cost to Mom but this gal was hired by a 3rd party contractor; she was not selected by the family nor could they employ family to care for my mom.

To find out more, look at the financial section here at agingcare.com. There are many questions similar to yours and many replies with lots of good details.

 
 

sylvester18

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Jun 16, 2010

My only thought on this is, WHY do you want to be paid to take care of your Mother? Maybe you should remember that Mom didn't get a penny back of all the years she bought groceries, clothes, shoes, utilities, the house payment, insurance, school costs, lunch money, uniform money, diapers, dental appointments, doctor appointments, etc. etc.
If you are offended by my post, so be it. I am offended by yours.

 
 

anonymous14017

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Jun 16, 2010

Actually, Sylvester18, there are plenty of programs that assist with childcare needs when people are faced with the difficulties of trying to juggle raising a child and working. Unfortunately, what eldercare options are out there are not always as abundant, nor are they always the best choice for those of us who are keeping the 'quality of life' of our parents as a top priority, while losing the the ability to work in order do so.

 
 

kfojenx

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Jun 16, 2010

Check with elder care in your community ask about a program called Respite Care, and the vouchers they provide to assist the care giver in finding relief and help with the patient needing care. It is called Respite Care...

 
 

Rhondee

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Jun 16, 2010

Thank you to all who gave their welcome advice, be it good or not. I will check out all you all have suggested and see what I can find out. I am sorry to offend you sylvester18, but I too have health problems that are expensive and so their fore I can not quit my job to take care of my mom. My 19 yr old daughter is the only one not supporting anyone so she is the likely canadaite to help, but I can not afford to give her the gas money to get to my moms house. I find it best not to judge someone until you have been on the very same journey they are traveling. Thanks again everyone.

 
 

kfojenx

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Jun 17, 2010

Yes, please let's not judge one another. We need to be understanding, and I was taught if you can't lift someone up, don't tear them down. It hurts and this is a tender topic that needs a gentle expression. Best wishes to all, heaven help us all. Peace.

 
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