Are there any elder communities that I can move to WITH Mom so that I can still live with her, but have the freedom to work also?

anonymous14017

Mar 11, 2010

Thanks Pamela, I'm still searching for the right set up and I was thinking of giving "A Place For Mom" a call to see if they had any ideas. You know, If I were the entrepeneur type, I would seriously consider setting up just the type of place I'm looking for. A Community of good, private housing for both the elderly and their caregiver, a place that can cater to the needs of the elderly as well as allow the caregiver to be there for all the family/emotional stuff while maintaining their own independence (and maybe get the some of the support that WE need from time to time)

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bpryor01

May 9, 2011

To Ted, I hope you've found something for you and your mother. I love the idea of starting a home for caregivers and their clients, without all the restrictions. I left my life to care for my Mom. I moved in with her (she's in senior housing). The only reason I'm allowed into her home is because she's on Medicaid and part of the "Copes" program in WA. I'm her trained certified caregiver and therefore qualified to live with her in a 62 or older apartment. She requires 24/7 care for various health issues and mobility challenges. Later this summer I hope to move the both of us to an affordable apartment outside of senior only living. If something were to happen to her, I'd be homeless in this current living arrangment, and I don't want to end up begging my elder siblings.

To ghouston: You are in a painful situation, but it sounds like you have a plan. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and please update us sometime on how it goes.

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pamela6148

Mar 9, 2010

How old are you Ted?

anonymous14017

Mar 10, 2010

I'm 47 years old and my main goal is to keep mom with me no matter what. She's 82 with dementia and scared, lonely etc. I've put aside everything about my own life to do this and it's going on for longer than I thought it would. I would hate to give up now but I must start bringing in some money.

anonymous14017

Mar 10, 2010

Thanks, I have tried and will keep trying to find some help, but it just seemed like a good compromise to find a place where she can get all the benefits of an elder community without either one of us dealing the feelings of abandonment. She has a hard time when I'm not around.

anne123

Mar 10, 2010

I met a man at my Dad's senior community who did just what you are suggesting. Years ago, he moved into the community along with his mother. His mother lived in the skilled nursing part and he lived in the "independent" part. Now his mother has passed away and he is still living there. But you may need to be at least a certain age to qualify for moving into the community yourself, as Carol said.

pamela6148

Mar 11, 2010

Hi Ted I was thinking about you and wondered if you'd had any luck with finding anything for you and your mom yet?

pamela6148

Mar 11, 2010

Well that would be something I'd invest in with you Ted. That's a great idea.

anonymous14017

Mar 11, 2010

It might be a good idea to approach a small existing facility (I'm sure they must have trade journals and such) and present the idea as a way for expansion. Or maybe I've just been spending too much time alone with an 82 year old dementia patient!