How can my sister and I get my stubborn mother to take a shower?

my father doesnt like showers anymore , he has dementia too . when he sits on the toliet i fill up the sink full of very warm water and wash him top to bottom . then pat him dry and put some baby powder on him , it helps and makes him feel fresh too .
it is the only way he accepts that than the shower . good luck ...

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Make sure the bathroom is really warm maybe use some bubble bath make sure she can sit and make sure the floor is not sliperey and maybe one day do a bedbath or use a sitz bath in the toilet the warm water probably would feel good.

I know she has dementia, but it might be worth asking her why she doesn't want to take a shower. She might fight you at first or give you the "I just don't want to" answer, but if you keep at it and keep changing the way you ask it you might find she has a real reason, and maybe it's something you can change to make her feel more comfortable. Good luck.

My Mom use to hate taking a shower.
I found that instead of asking-I would just anounce, come on ,it's bath time, she would complain a bit but did get in, and then say how good it felt.
With Mom, I quit asking and did more telling.

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I agree with Nance's comment....I have found that things go much better when I don't "ask permission" of my Dad to do something. I tell him as little as possible ahead of time, because then he just thinks about it and finds reasons he doesn't want to do it ( whatever it is). So now I wait until the time has arrived, and then I tell Dad we're going to do such and such. My mother was stubborn also ( she passed away), and I found with her that I got better results when I treaded lightly, and tried to allow her to feel somehow that the decision had been hers. This is not always easy, but worth a try. Bringing in third parties to put more gently pressure on the elder to do something helps also. There is strength in numbers. Having a doctor tell an elder he/she needs to do something is helpful.

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