Concern about bringing outsider in to visit

If you're going to pay someone to come in, can you tell her it's to make lunch for her, clean a little etc? If it looks like it's for your good, not hers maybe she'll be less defensive. Also, did she go to a church? If so, is there someone in the church that would be willing to come and talk, or play cards, or start a new book to read with her?

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I think I will try that strategy. She hasn't gone to church in the last three 1/2 years. I have tried to get her to go, but she doesn't want to be bothered anymore. Thanks for the advice!

Jody grieving for your mom now is not unusual. I too miss the mother I had of yesterday because the mother I have of today is very different. You're certainly not alone there.

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Hi Jody, you are definitely not alone! I both grieve the current losses, and the ones to come. They call this "anticipatory grief." It's the most painful things I've ever experienced to date, save the grief of dealing with mental and cognitive decline. Still, I try to see the positives among the wonderfully supportive friends that God has brought my way. Weirdest thing I know! Extreme pain on one hand, and joy on the other! I call that, amazing grace. I'm praying you experience the same! Just know you're not alone.

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SS you are such a wonderful writer. I love the way you xpress yourself.