Commented on a discussion 8/13/2009 at 4:47 pm
That's a good question! My sister lives with my Mom and Dad, but we both share in caring for my Mother, who has bladder cancer. Once we heard the diagnosis, my sister and I sat down with Dad and talke
...Read MoreThat's a good question! My sister lives with my Mom and Dad, but we both share in caring for my Mother, who has bladder cancer. Once we heard the diagnosis, my sister and I sat down with Dad and talked over a plan. As things unfolded, we made adjustments to our agreement. My sister makes most of the medical decisions for her, but not without getting input from Dad and I.
I don't live with them, so I feel a bit more guilt about not being around 24/7. I take two days per week and my sister and I alternate weekends. We decided the most important thing was to watch how our decisions affect her care and happiness. It's hard to do sometimes, especially when we disagree.
I don't know for sure, but it depends on what state you live in as to whether more than one person can be the sole legal medical decision maker. I'd be interested in an informed answer myself. Good luck with your caregiving!