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1/5/2009 at 9:23 pm
roxie my heart goes out to you! i have been thru it too 6yrs ago watched my oldest my sister and excatly 1 week short of a yr my mom,,my sister had a rare form of lukemia and she was sick one day an
...Read Moreroxie my heart goes out to you! i have been thru it too 6yrs ago watched my oldest my sister and excatly 1 week short of a yr my mom,,my sister had a rare form of lukemia and she was sick one day and died the next. my mom also had lukemia and fell broke her hip. was in hosp for almost a month with collasp lung heart attacks, the dr sent her home to die.i have 4 healthy brothers with wives that dont work and we all made the decision to bring her home that was her wish. my father couldnt help much both in their early 80s, but i was the only one that stayed and took care of her.the brothers would stop by and inlaws would call and say if you need anything call us,,well if they cant just say you take a break i will stay then forget them,,now i have a family of my own my daughter is severally handicapped and husband mainly took care of her .so one day i called the brothers and not one of them or their wives had time to come stay for a couple of hours while we went out.i finally sat with my father and told him i need help.we made the decision to call in hospice.the other family members thought that was the wrong choice,,what gave them the right to say a word about it! but even with hospice i was never able to leave for more then a hr.my mother lived a month and before she passed she told me one day she couldnt go until it was ok,,so i put my foot down and told the siblings to tell her it was ok to go,then i had to deal with my dad,that night i sat with her and told her all would be ok and i promiosed to take care of my dad ,she died the next morning,,and i dont mean this to sound bad but after it was all over i felt a weight lift off my shoulders,and i know i did what i could and it was the hardest thing i had to do and believe me i cried alot to and it does help.and god has a special place for me and i dont feel any guilt like some of the family does.then oct 2007 i went thru another short time with my dad, but i lived with from the time my mom passed till he passed,and let me tell you i would do it all again if need be,once they are gone you never get the chance again..so take a deep breath do your cries and at the end you also will have a special place...god bless