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12/6/2010 at 9:35 am
MrsGrasshopper, I know how you feel. I was the same way when my MIL, who has Alzheimer's, lived with us. I was told by my husband and son and DPOA SIL that I should take the opportunity to get away (w
...Read MoreMrsGrasshopper, I know how you feel. I was the same way when my MIL, who has Alzheimer's, lived with us. I was told by my husband and son and DPOA SIL that I should take the opportunity to get away (when my sister invited me on a girls wkend. outing w/ some friends & her). I was afraid that nobody could care for her the way that I did, but for my sanity, my husband's and son's sanity--I needed to go.
I did and everything turned out alright with her. During the latter part of last winter, she started having unexplained bruises and my DPOA SIL wouldn't pay for a HHA-Home Health Aide to come in to watch her o/n for a week or two (so we could figure out when she was falling--that's the only thing that I could come up with). She made a dr. appt. for her, the dr. sent her to the hospital on a 'direct admit' and she was placed in a nursing home for rehabilitation where it was decided upon (w/o my husband's--her only son & my input). I know I'm not a blood relative and my opinion doesn't count for anything where their mother is concerned, but I was the PRIMARY CAREGIVER for her. My husband is no. 4 child. Only the sisters made the decision to put her in the NH. I thought I was okay with this, until the holidays rolled around. Although, she's never been far from my mind. I call the NH to check on her every so often and sometimes I get told they don't know if they should be talking to me. I tell them that I'm on the list of people they can talk to. Anyway,
if you're given some time away from caregiving, just remember, it will be okay. Things won't fall apart because you aren't there. Have fun and good luck in your decision-making!
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