I cared for both my parents until my father passed away in 2005. I lived just a couple miles away. Then I sold my townhouse to come live with my mother because she was recovering from several surgeries and in fragile health at the time. She had a 54 year marriage and 6 children, none of which live in this state except me. I love my mother a lot and she's doing pretty good at 77 years old. She still drives and goes out with friends but has the general limitations of a person her age.
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I cared for both my parents until my father passed away in 2005. I lived just a couple miles away. Then I sold my townhouse to come live with my mother because she was recovering from several surgeries and in fragile health at the time. She had a 54 year marriage and 6 children, none of which live in this state except me. I love my mother a lot and she's doing pretty good at 77 years old. She still drives and goes out with friends but has the general limitations of a person her age.
My problem is that I really miss my townhouse and feeling independent. Before my fathers passing I was just coming into my own emotionally and financially after the break up of my 13 year marriage. I was finally starting to enjoy my life, now, I feel like her life is my life. I want to feel better about this whole situation so I keep searching for ways to be here, but feel like I'm maintaining my independence even though everything we do is so inter-twined. I'm hoping I can get suggestions and insight on this site from what seems to be a great group of people. Thank you.
I am caring for my mother, Mary, who is 81 years old, living at home and the primary ailment is general age-related decline.