Answered a question 1/22/2010 at 10:41 am
Mom is not so much in denial as angry at the added time & patience needed to cope with Dad. We just recently moved them into a nice assisted living suite because she refused to handle Dad's meds and
...Read MoreMom is not so much in denial as angry at the added time & patience needed to cope with Dad. We just recently moved them into a nice assisted living suite because she refused to handle Dad's meds and he took her meds twice - once he had to be resusitated in the ambulance. Now we are dealing with her anger at being forced from her home as well. We have power of attorney for both of them but we are trying to let them handle their own finances as much as possible for now. One sibling is encouraging the negative outlook which doesn't help.
I know this is a hard adjustment time for them, but I'm getting very depressed myself, trying to keep up with finding and fixing all their business details as well as helping take care of the empty house. It is just overwhelming at times because it's like working in the dark. Any questions about their affairs is met with an "I don't know" and you're left to muddle around until you find the answer. Important papers are missing and that is so frustrating for me - I like everything organized. I've been on meds for depression and anxiety for years so I'm finding it a real struggle.
I guess I just needed to sound off today.