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FamHaynes

I am caring for my father, Bill Toller, who is 84 years old, living at home and the primary ailment is general age-related decline.

I am caring for my mother, Masae Toller, who is 73 years old, living at home.

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AgingCareTeam gave a hug 11/1/2010 at 12:55 pm

Happy National Family Caregivers Month!

National Family Caregivers month is about honoring yourself as one of the 65 million family caregivers in this country who take care of their loved o ...Read More

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Asked a question 2/18/2010 at 7:49 pm

My father is not walking enough and his legs are starting to swell. How can I help him if he is starting to not be able to walk?

Answered a question 2/2/2010 at 7:03 pm

My mother is experiencing delusions and paranoia but she will not take any medication for her symptoms. What can I do to help her?

I will thank you. I will make a point to go with her. I am starting to get a little paranoid about medication myself. I am definately going to start reading those folded up pieces of paper in the ...Read More

Answered a question 2/2/2010 at 2:02 pm

Is my aunt paying me adequately for the care that I'm providing for my grandmother?

Ask your aunt how she arrived at the figure she is paying you. Then ask her how much she thinks she would have to pay someone else. If she balks... ask her how much she would expect if it was the ot ...Read More

Asked a question 2/2/2010 at 1:53 pm

My mother is experiencing delusions and paranoia but she will not take any medication for her symptoms. What can I do to help her?

Answered a question 12/29/2009 at 9:34 pm

How can I get through the fact that my parents are upset that I put them in a nursing home?.

Each family must talk about this before it happens. For some older ones, the reality is such a shock that they can only imagine their worst possible fears. If they did not prepare for this in advanc ...Read More

Answered a question 12/21/2009 at 12:08 pm

How do I cope with a sibling who is in denial about our mother's decline?

Perhaps Mom could stay with your sister for 30 days. It is amazing how the experience can get through where words can not. For some, even one week will drive the point home.

Answered a question 12/21/2009 at 11:46 am

My mother has COPD and suffered a debilitating stroke 9 years ago. Can we force her to stop smoking?

We all know that smoking is bad for us. As an ex-smoker, I can appreciate how much she has come to depend on her cigarettes. The bond is so strong that unless she wants to quit, it would be a form o ...Read More

Answered a question 11/23/2009 at 2:17 pm

What do you do when the family is in disagreement about the care of an elderly loved one?

Try not to think of the holidays as the Norman Rockwell image of what it should be. That is like comparing yourself to a famous model after Photoshop. Remember, the whole commercialization of holida ...Read More

Gave a hug to careformom 11/19/2009 at 11:43 pm

I hope that instead of fair.... you come to realize that you are the key to the intimate knowledge of your mothers condition. Just knowing that you have the power to make her comfortable, to make he ...Read More

Answered a question 11/19/2009 at 11:27 pm

I do all the work and have no legal power. Is this fair?

It is typical for the generation of our parents that the females in the family have the responsibility for caring for the needs of the family without very much authority. The realities of taking care ...Read More

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