Commented on a discussion 7/4/2008 at 11:36 am
My father in law lives with my husband and I on a part time basis, he has 7 living children who all live in the same town as he does except for my husband and only he and his sister are the sole care
...Read MoreMy father in law lives with my husband and I on a part time basis, he has 7 living children who all live in the same town as he does except for my husband and only he and his sister are the sole caregivers, his other children are selfish and will not help with the care of their father, they are more concerned about the intrusion in their daily routines and how much time he takes out of their lives, they do not take into consideration that he is 88 years old, his eyesight is failing, he has arthritis and that he does not have a lifetime in front of him, they should be cherishing the fact that he lived a long life and in his golden years they should be there for him like he was when they were growing up. I worry for my husbands sanity sometime because of the stress of dealing with his Dad is somewhat difficult and stubborn behaviour, he expects everyone to be at his beck and call and will rise at the crack of dawn expecting everyone to be up at the same time, as well as his siblings refusal to help out. My father in law likes his beer and cigarettes and would drink and smoke to his hearts content but he has health issue's that would be agravated by this kind of activity if not kill him! my in laws are useless and can't even be bothered to watch him , he needs a constant routine and a stable home and he does not have either, it is suggested that he enter an old folks home, but he does not want to go becaue he thinks that it would be like "jail", My Husband and I don't have a life anymore and his family just does not care one bit. We are beside ourselves with the inlaws selfish behaviour and the only person suffering for it is dad, does anyone have any ideas on how to convince dad that he does need to be in a home? He needs a routine where someone will be there when he rises early in the morning and give him his medication and he will have someone on call when the need arises, my husband is a seasonal worker who leaves town to work and I work full time as well as my sister in law, the time will come when there will not be anyone around to care for him we are looking into the future for his care but cannot convince him to go to the home let alone have his other children watch him, we are getting desperate for a solution.