Answered a question 1/6/2010 at 4:16 pm
Hi,
We went through something similar with my mother-in-law. The family said that she was being difficult.
Then, I had to take care of my Dad. I learned that he wasn't just bein
...Read MoreHi,
We went through something similar with my mother-in-law. The family said that she was being difficult.
Then, I had to take care of my Dad. I learned that he wasn't just being difficult. He was not able to take the actions needed to help himself. My father was diagnosed with a mild case of vascular dementia. He was gradually losing his ability to function in the real world.
So, now I look back at the issues with my mother-in-law and think that she may have been experiencing mild dementia, too. She looked like she could do things on her own, but she really couldn't.
Your mom's regular doctor may not want to diagnose dementia because he doesn't see a radical difference in her behavior. Anti-depressants are not a cure for anything. She may need to see a neurologist who can evaluate her ability to function.
Once you know, you will be able to make decisions and take action like looking for an assisted living facility or adult day care. Or, maybe your daughters can help so you can get some time alone. Your mom's behavior may not change but you will know that it is her, not YOU, that has the problem. You are a good woman in a difficult position.