When an elderly person moves out of their home, into an assisted living facility, nursing home or the home of relative, it is an emotional and stressful time. Senior move manager Mary Jo Zeller, who works for Gero Solutions (link to Gero Solutions website), a senior move management company in the Chicago area, says a senior move is a major life event. “It’s in the same category as getting married, or having a baby. It’s another transition, a loss, a grieving process.”
Once the decision has been made that the elderly person will move out of their home, a host of challenges arises. What do they bring to the new home? What do they leave behind? What happens to items that are left behind? How do they prepare for the move? And the list goes on.
To help the family through this difficult time, Senior Move Managers handle the details of planning and implementing the move, including:
The biggest barrier for seniors is fear of the unknown. Often, this manifests as resistance, Zeller says. Mom will say, “I’m not moving if I can’t take my dining room table.” Or, seniors find themselves immobilized. Overwhelmed with sorting through 40 years worth of memories, boxes and paperwork, they do nothing. They may not know where to begin.
For the caregiver, a sensitivity to the emotional situation is key. Don’t get frustrated and think, “Mom has all day. Why couldn’t she sort through papers?” Realize it goes deeper than that. Immobility is a mask for fear.
Be sensitive also when it comes to the elderly person possessions – even those that seem mundane and unimportant. Zeller cites an example of a daughter going to her mother’s house to pack up the kitchen. She thought she was being helpful, but her mother was in tears, because she felt violated and not in control. “Realize that this is a major life change,” Zeller says. “Some possessions will have more meaning to them – honor that.”
The elderly also experience a loss of control – perhaps for the first time in their life. They desperately want to remain in control. One way to help the elderly person feel in control is to have them involved in the move planning, but guided by professionals. Planning for the move includes asking questions like:
“Try to minimize stress by minimizing change,” Zeller advises.
For the family member caregiver, the best thing you can offer is emotional support. After possessions are moved, keep in mind the elderly person still needs family support. “Studies show it takes 30 to 90 days to become acclimated in a new home,” she says.
The greatest gift a caregiver can give during this time is to help the elderly person adjust to their new living arrangement.
Focus on the positive: Often elderly people gain independence after a move. And families have time to spend together on relationships, rather than doing chores.
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Sean
Oct 17, 2007 Suggest Removal
It's great to hear about such organizations. They are NEEDED! When the time came for my parents to move to a facility, they dug their heels in and refused. Opinions of outsiders eventually helped convince them that it was the right thing to do. Somehow the power of being a blood relative works to your disadvantage in this situation!
mkbuysse
Jul 25, 2008 Suggest Removal
For a complete listing of senior move managers throughout the US and Canada, please go to the National Association of Senior Move Managers (NASMM) website at www.nasmm.org.
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