Stress Relief for the Caregiver

When no outlet is found for stress, it compounds faster than interest on a loan. Has your confused father asked why he can't go back home for the 10th time in as many minutes? Have medical appointments compelled you to miss work again? Are you worried about paying soaring prescription drug bills? Clearly, you cannot completely erase sources of stress in your life. But you can relieve some stress and work on solutions to problems that are raising your blood pressure.

Retrench. Reassess needs and brainstorm solutions. Would adult day services help once or twice a week? Would grocery shopping online give you a little more time for yourself? Can other family members step up to the plate or pitch in financially?

Revitalize through exercise. If you can't shoehorn in a regular walk or get to the gym, could you start a strength training or aerobics program at home? This requires only minimal equipment. There are plenty of videos, DVDs, and publications to get you started. Or perhaps someone could take over for a few hours so that you could take a hike — literally! Getting outdoors might lift your mood immeasurably.

Release feelings. Sometimes stress stems from feelings you wish you didn't have, such as anger, frustration, or dislike. Find ways to release these feelings without hurting yourself or others. Join a support group, talk with understanding friends, or consider therapy. Yell in the car with the windows rolled up. Sprint up and down the stairs to burn energy.

Relax. Learn meditation and other relaxation techniques through a class, tape, or book. The time and money invested pay dividends in improved health and well-being.

Source: Caregiver’s Handbook, Harvard Health Publications, Copyright © 2007 by President and Fellows of Harvard College. All rights reserved. Used with permission of StayWell.