While there is some small comfort in knowing that the pressures you feel are shared by many others, the bottom line to this very personal matter is simple: finding the time and services that can help make your life and the lives of your aging parents a little easier. This year, as you care for your elder (either living with you or still in their own home); find the balance you need each day to continue to provide great care for your loved one and yourself.
Plan for winter safety
This is a time when caregivers’ concerns accelerate as their loved ones are negotiating the challenges of another winter. Consider doing the following:
- Fall prevention – inside and out. Remove scatter rugs and secure handrails at all entrances of the house.
- Be sure your elderly parents have the proper snow shoes or boots when walking outside.
- Arrange for snow removal of driveway, walkway and don’t forget the mailbox that’s located away from the house.
- Adequate heating – you can arrrange for automatic delivery of heating oil (elders have priority for reinstatement of electricity if the power goes out).
- If your elderly parent is still driving, check to see if the car is set with an overall winter protection (e.g. oil change, tires, battery, blankets, water, AAA membership). It is also a good time to reassess if your aging parent should still be driving.
Ensure emotional well-being
The first of the year is when the blues are very prevalent with the let down of the holiday as the family returns home, sunshine is rare in many places and getting out every day can be a challenge. You can help your parents by:
- Making sure they’re getting some exercise (walking in a mall, neighborhood, exercises at a local senior center.)
- Checking B-12 (if low, it could impact memory), Vitamin D, and thyroid levels.
- Scheduling a weekly event they can look forward to (a movie, dinner out, or a visit by you or a friend).
Plan ahead for doctors’ appointments
If you’re unable to assist your loved one, make arrangements with a sibling, friend, aide or neighbor. Afterwards, have them communicate to you the doctors’ feedback and next steps. Some communities have transportation services for the elderly. Check with your Area Agency on Aging.
Ask for help when you need it
Know that you don’t have to do it all. -- whether it’s taking your loved one to a doctor’s appointment, concerned about what to do next or just feeling overwhelmed. Know there are many resources to support your caregiving needs through websites, books and groups.
Seek family support
Maintaining open communications with immediate family members and siblings gives you a chance to ask for help with various tasks. Plan a weekly check-in with friends and relatives to update them on your elderly parents condition (AgingCare has a new online tool to help you accomplish this) and get the help you need, reducing your caregiving workload and alleviating some stress.