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How caregivers can help depressed senior parents

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If you are able to accompany Dad to the doctor, mention your concerns and describe the symptoms you have seen. Ask if the symptoms you are concerned about could be related to any of the medications your parent is taking.  Sometimes, changes in mood are a side effect of medications, and/or can be symptoms of other medical conditions different from depression.

If you can’t be there at a doctor visit personally, arrange to speak to the doctor by phone with Dad’s permission.  Another alternative is to hire a geriatric care manager, especially a registered nurse, to accompany Dad to the doctor visit, and ask the care manager to let the doctor know all your concerns about Dad. The care manager can communicate as a professional with the M.D, and then report to you what the doctor recommends.

Symptoms of depression in your senior parent

Loss of enjoyment of things one normally likes is one of the symptoms of depression. Other symptoms can include feeling sad for extended periods, not wanting to do one’s usual activities, loss of appetite, having trouble leaving the house, sleeping too much or not enough, eating too much, difficulty making decisions, steady weight loss, or unusual weight gain, irritability, outbursts of temper which are not normal, and withdrawal from friends and family.

Having one or more of these symptoms does not necessarily mean that a person is depressed. These symptoms are cause for concern that something is going on, and it needs attention.

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Artemisia said
Jul 27, 2009

I know my mom has depression. And she knows it too. But she says she does not care. When I asked her neurologist about anti-depressants, the dr asked Mom what she wanted, and she said "No!" She has taken them in the past, but now says she is entitled to be depressed because she is nearly blind, hard of hearing, has memory problems and a wonky heart valve, and has to die soon. She refuses "any more pills." Meanwhile I am the one going nuts. I qualify for Medicare in three months and I think I should get the neurologist to prescribe for me!

KnowItAlz said
Jul 29, 2009

I am Kathy (39 years old) and the primary caregiver for my 81 year old Dad who has Alzheimer's disease and lives with me in North
Carolina.

I realized that my Dad had severe dementia after my Mom passed away in 2004, and he moved in with me.

We have a part time (private pay) CNA home health aide, who
stays with Dad while I work.

I have a full time job, a family of my own (including my love, David and his 14 year-old daughter, Jessica), am a volunteer for Meals-on-Wheels and the Lion's Club.

When Dad first came to live with us, I thought my life was over.
Then, I made a decision. We can let this ruin our lives, or we can
fight.

At our house, we use Razadyne, Namenda and laughter.

I am also writing a blog, it forces me to write down one funny thing about my life with Dad every single day. That is a very important part of making me a better caregiver.

I am committed to making sure my Dad will not suffer from
Alzheimer's. And hopefully, those of us who love him will not either.

Good Luck to all,
Kathy

spiralli said
Jul 29, 2009

My mom is depressed and on Prestique. It is amazingly effective, a fact we know to be true by the effect of not taking it. There are many reasons not to take anti depressants, but in our case, none of them can counter the joy I get from having her enjoy this part of her life!

Li

jhaymaker said
Aug 20, 2009

Can depression cause violence in an older person with health issues against the care giver?

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