Absorbent Products for Elderly Incontinence

The elderly woman I take care of wears the above mentioned pads inside of belted disposable underwear. Then she pulls up a disposable diaper over top of it all. Also, she layers toilet paper squares on top of the pad. Is this really the most effective way of dealing with incontinence????

She says I don't understand when I try to discuss it with her.

Any advice appreciated. I have talked to the urologist but he was dumbfounded.

need some advice: we have been caring for MIL for 5 years now. She is now very incontinant. We buy the pull up style adult diapers, however she REFUSES to wear them. It is a constant battle. We are cleaning up and doing laundry sometimes 3-4 times a day. And she never tells us she made a mistake so the house / her room always smells awful. HELP! Oh, BTW, she is SOOOOOOOOOOO hard-headed. When we try to talk to her about this, it's not her problem and "Just put me away then"
We are tired of the smell and tired of laundry, tired of cleaning!

I have the same problem as the both of you, chec this out my grandmother is 87 had a strok about year and half now. before the strok she was going to the bathroom on her own. when she first came home, she was weak, so i got depends because it was easy for me to handle her, and she had a hard time getting up and down. she was on the walker, to the cane, now just holding on to the wall and such. Here's the kicker she can go to the bathroom if she wants. the strok on set Dementia, yes she repeats herself, for the most part. here we go she ask to go to the casino, i took her. not once did she use the depend that day, she ask to go to the bathroom. i said to myself i will check and see if she goes to the bathroom here, guess what not she use that depend as she was a six moth old baby. so i said to here you use the bathroom at the casino. she told me she did not want to wet out in the public.You know i was hot. so here what i do she gets 3depends a day. because a long as i leave the bag in her room she will use 18 in three day. Just a few weeks ago i took her to buffalo to she her ill sister. Your right! she went to the bath room. She can't remember anything but how many depends do she have. During the night she get up and and put clothing between her legs, i ask why you do that, she tells me it keeps her dry. We all know if your wet your wet i don't car how much pading you but on.But that's what she thinks. She thinks putting on all this padding keeps her dry. and i keep trying to tell her is don't, the caretaker that there during the day wash i wash. i can't stand it when i walk in my house and it smells like piss. when she takes it off, she think it's ok to just put it in the hamper. I think i'm going to get one of those things (diaper pals) these mother use for the babies.

BGB

Love it when a Poise pad makes it into the laundry hamper and I don't catch it. What a mess!

i'm new to the game of care giver but i have found the most increadable product to help control ALL room odors. it is an all natural anti-bacterial, anti-viral room spray made by natural options. i use it when mom does #2 and the smell is horrible..with in seconds i can handle it and clean up isn't as bad...i use it in dad's room because of his horrible smell of urine and body oder. hope this helps you all