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Feelings of Loneliness or Apathy Affects Eldery Eating

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6. Dining alone
A meal is often enjoyed more when the event is shared with another person or a group.

Try to share at least one of the meals each day with your parent so you can visit, talk about a new or adjusted recipe, or discuss events and outings.

Recruit other family members, friends and neighbors to join Mom or Dad regularly for lunch or dinner. Recommend that they visit with your parent on any subject other than illness or limitation, and that they ask questions to help Mom or Dad retain and even expand mental agility and ability. Anticipating the visit will surely entice your parent the dining table.

Research local “meal events,” such as lunch at the Senior Center. The meal will be healthy, and your parent can visit with other mature adults in a communal setting. Your local Area Agency on Aging can provide the sites and contact information, plus if volunteer drivers or specialized transit services are available for transportation.

7. Lack of knowledge/motivation
Draw Mom or Dad into the plan: “Mom/Dad, if we can make sure you have proper nutrition, we can reduce the side effects of your medication; we can help your medications work better; you will probably feel better; plus we can celebrate our mutual life together for far longer. Will you buy into the best plan?”

If your parent understands the vital role of nutrition in her or his life, and agrees with the approach, you have a partner for all the right reasons.

In this step, offer a positive comment at least once each day to your parent that “with your proper nutrition, we have taken another giant step forward in your health and independence.”

8.  Monotony
When your parent adheres to your daily healthful nutrition program, treat her or him to lunch or dinner in a restaurant to enhance the dining experience. The meal will probably be prepared and seasoned differently than your own recipe. Continue to focus on the healthy foods in the diet program.

Dining out will also give you a break from your kitchen chores.

9. Unwillingness to cook 

If you can’t prepare all the meals, call for help. There may be a Meals on Wheels program for homebound older adults available in your community. This program prepares hot and healthy dishes that conform to the National Institutes of Health nutrition guidelines, and delivers them daily. Your local Area Agency on Aging will have details and contact information.

An alternative, particularly if your parent lives elsewhere in the country, is to order five to seven fresh gourmet quality meals per week delivered to Mom or Dad by a firm such as Magic Kitchen. Each week the company delivers the flash frozen meals in a single shipment for your parent or helper to stash in the freezer, to be withdrawn one each day. Your parent then only needs to heat the meal as recommended, and then dine in style.

The average meal program cost ranges from $58 per week for seven daily meals, to $116 per week for two meals each day. Pricing could be higher depending on your selection of side dishes and/or desserts.

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PCVS said
Jul 9, 2008

This is, of late exactly the problem my mother is having. Things that she used to like the taste of, she no longer does. She's shrinking and it's scary.

alzheimersideas said
Jul 9, 2008

Not mentioned is a serious medical problem. They should be checked out by a physician. You should call before the visit to explain the situation. Because of HIPPA, you may not be given a lot of information unless you are the health care proxy or they give permission for their medical information be shared with you.

Assuming there is no medical problem, certain supplements like ensure and boost have ingredients that may make your loved one nauseas thus he/she will not drink it. Iron is in many of these supplements. This has been know to make folks nauseas.

Also some of the supplements give a person louse bowel movements. Sometimes the supplements cause a loved one to loose control of their bowels. This will stop them from taking supplements as well.

Occasionally, supplements decrease appetite.

There is definitely a lot to think about

Therefore follow the tips listed before supplements are necessary.

PCVS said
Jul 9, 2008

Well, I have started her on a morning shake which she has liked the two times I offered it. I add a protied powder, banana,milk, filtered water, other fruit as we have it. I'm thinking about adding more fiber to her diet because while she has always loved salads, of late she has mostly not wanted them. I wonder if the poor air quality and high heat (we don't have any AC) might also be adversely affecting her.

alzheimersideas said
Jul 9, 2008

Heat could definitely be a problem. It sounds like your shake is nutritiious. Sometimes bananas can constipate people.

bellinghamone said
Jul 9, 2008

[cvs:
Have you considered the heart-to-heart visit with your mother about the vital role of proper nutrition to make her medicines work better and reduce side effects. If you do this, also ask about her currently favorite foods, stating that you will find a way to work them in to the menu planning. If Mom is part of the solution the probability of her new acceptance of what you prepare and serve is very good.

Yes, I agree that heat can be a deterrent to proper nutrition. As you don't have air conditioning, consider buying a small fan that you can direct specifically to the locality around your mother. Also, if there is a breeze outside, open the window that can catch the airflow plus the window on the other side of the room or unit so the airflow can escape. You may have to buy screens for the windows, but such is a one-time purchase.

Also, consider some form of daily physical activity, even an event as simple as a walk around the block or to a nearby grocery store, can help produce an appetite as well as be beneficial to Mom's physical condition, dexterity and strength.

Good luck. I commend you as a concerned caregiver.

Leonard J. Hansen
Author of this feature

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