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Jan 14, 2010
you know when they say family are greedy i beleive it. Now my family sued me for 51,000 dollars of what they think my dad had..the way the put it i messed with their inheritance.i could not beleive it now, you know why i will not see my family of course my sister wanted to discuss some things but was this it??? no its that they knew the screwed up..i can't beieive they did this to me i gave up 6 yrs of my life uprooted my family to move in my dads home to take care of him i could not hold a full time job and when i did i missed alot of work so how was i suppose to pay my car note take care of my child without any money? before my dad got really bad in his disease he gave me the permission to use his money i had witness there at the time he told me and it was a outsider that was there so i thought i was pertected but that didn't help much my family accused me of not loving my parents said it loud and clear after the funeral (embarrassing) its a shame i was with my dad from sun up to sun down missed alot my sons activity cause i couldn't get a family to come and sit with (OUR) father for just two hrs......and this is the outcome of how much they really love me..i guess but the thing is they lost out on alot of money if they pick up where i left off after they booted me out of dads house they were suppose to finshed fixing up the house but they didn't they just laid around and suck up the utlilties that were all in dads name raised all his bills which they had to pay off i kept up with my dads bills while i was there convientiently they could take him to his dr appts because he was hard to get in the car well i made planse for a bus that had a handicapped w/c lift in it i just met him at the drs office, cause i couldn't get him in my car any more....but i made the arrangements paid for it but they couldn't follow through with that....so the just didn't take him he was in the hospital 3 times after i move out and i moved out dec 22 of 2008 dad was in the hospital a wk after i move out (amazing) something was wrong with him they wouldn't tell me..but i do know this my oldest brother was gonna sign a blood tranfered for my dad at 83 yrs old..back in 2007 i had a DNR wrote up and my dad signed it i remeber his exact words "do not keep me alive for nothing" i didn't want to do it but it was his choice just like i did for Mom..my brother was being selfish and greedy at the same time..they did all this to me and they still didn't end up with nothing the had the hightest realtors and a lawyer that drained them dry and now they want to squeeze blood for a tullip..i can't believe it i told that lawyer to push it up my brothers....you know... sued me, put me in jail i dnt care i did what i had to do for (OUR) dad to stay a float i took him to dr appts i took him to parks, cementary to vist mom resting place i took my dad every where with me until he couldn't walk very much and i have been with him all that time until summer of 2008 old author sat in on him he was in the w/c more, more..but i got sued i messed with my family inheritance i just can't beleive it they didn't help me do anything but they sure want their money my dad was a good man i did not treat my dad cruel i decribe my dad as the three c's, CALM,COOL,COLLECTED alz patience he was the best one yet and i have taken care of several of special people he didn't fight me he didn't argue with me except the point of him being a man (hahaha)..so why would i not love the man that gave me 47 yrs of my life a good one at that i loved my parents, sorry to say i just don't think my brothers and sister did, all they thought about is how much money they were gonna get and they didn't get nothing....
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Whatttttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!! I haven't read through but I saw the headline and gonna read it now!
I take care of my mom's finances too. I bought a ledger and list everything and leave it right there on my mom's dresser. There's only my sister and I, (my sister's adopted), but I am glad I keep a ledger, but they're some sneaky folks and I wouldn't put anything past my sister's family. Read Siblings I added something. And it will all work out for you. You saved your receipts. People are really greety aren't they.
MY DAD IS PASSED NOW PAM ITS TOO LATE BUT YOU KNOW I AM MAD AT MY SELF I DIDN'T GOOD TRACK OF EVERYTHING BUT HELL I WAS WITH HIM FOR SIX YRS I KNOW THATS NOT AN EXCUSE BUT MY GOODNESS 51,OOO DOLLARS COME ON THAT 5,000 DOLLARS A YR BUT WHAT THE HECK IM THROUGH WITH ITS TOO LATE TO DO ANYTHING BUT THEY KNOW THE TRUTH NOW THEY FOUND OUT MY BROTHER HAD GOTTEN ALOT OF THAT MONEY BUT IT WAS MY WORD AGAINST HIS HE MADE SURE NO ONE KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING BUT ME..BUT ITS O.K. BUT WHAT HURTS THE MOST IS I'M HAVING A HARD TIME FINDING A JOB THE JOB I HAD LAST YR RIGHT AFTER I MOVED OUT OF MY DADS MY BROTHER CALLED IT AND TOLD THEM I ABUSED MY DAD..THAT HURT ME REALLY BAD FOR HIM TO THAT SO NOW IWORK FOR PRIVATE AGENCIES WHICH THEY DO BIG BACKGROUND CHECKS..NOTHING ON MY LICENSE BUT IT WITH BE ON MY REFERENCE EACH TIME THEY CALLED THAT PLACE
You know, there is a reason why the Bible says:I Timothy 6:10:"For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows."What has happened to you Msdiva, is a good example of that.
May 19, 2010
Dad is 86 and has Alzheimers and other illnesses AND he's drinking alcohol on a daily basis (12pk of beer /day sometimes more) I have let all my siblings know, his doctor knows, anyone who is around knows. He rides his tricycle back and forth to the liquor store every day. I pay all his bills (he scribbles his name on the checks) and lost my job of 10 yrs due to taking care of him. Now my unemployment has run out and I can't find a job and have asked Dad to help me out. He says he will but when it comes to giving me money he gives me a hard time instead. So I've decided to let him drink himself to death and try to get on with my own life. Even his doctor said it's okay for him to drink 1or 2 beers/day but he drinks sometimes 2 12pks like if it were water. I need to save myself and my marriage (which is in trouble) because of all the time I spend with Dad who doesn't appreciate anything I do. My siblings are all out of town and Dad has a person living with him who only administers his meds -- I do everything else. My health has suffered, my job, my life. I just can't do this anymore!
WELL DARLING DO WHAT YOU HALF TO DO JUST DON'T GO THROUGH WHAT I WENT THROUGH
Jun 6, 2010
I saw where you were 1 of 12 children and you were the only one who took care of your dad??? He lived with you for 6 years and your family sued you??? IF THAT DON'T TAKE ALL?
It might have felt like you were going thru h*ll, but just keep the memories that you helped take care of your dad and none of the other siblings wouldn't take the time.
Here's a great big hug! You put up with a lot, but just remember you did it when nobody else in the family wanted to.
lach61it was a mess but it ended up they found out what had really happen the suit was lifted but its the thought of them doing it i gave up 6 yrs of my life and i had a 12 yyr (at the time) that was struglling in school it was h--l ...now they are all talking to me but one but i dnt give a d--e about her she didnt come around when mom and dad was alive but the last one was the other day it took a illness for her to call me. but its ok i never forget what they did to me ..my brother will pay for what he did i had to do what i had to do but what HE did was unexcusable and will pay for it
Sep 16, 2010
This is an ol post but am curious as I dont understand it. Did you hae to pay out the 51,000? Dont you deserve money for the 6 years of care? omg
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