First time expressing - sorry if my thoughts are all over

[The latest sat incident while my mother and i at work husband hme w kids dad was constipated ,he dsnt understand why or how to help he proceeded to try to get " it"p.output with my 4 yr old toothbrush.. i was about to move out i cant leave him but it hurts soo bad dnt know whats bes for dad or kids anymore]

OK what does this mean? or what are you saying that your dad did?

gee so much for online support no one has even responded i guess my story is not important or as put together as eveyone else, thanks i feel better that this would be first time and only i guess i should seek support

Hello dear, I didn't understand your post. Can you clarify it for me please. We're all here for you. Don't give up just explain.

LORI:

I also tried to fill in the blanks with this post and the other one titled "Trying to Simplify." All the confusion, anxiety, and pain are making you "do a Whitney Houston": talking about different subjects at the same time and expecting people to connect the dots. Still, we want to help.

Below is a strategy I call the "5 Ws." It'll help organize your thoughts coherently. Do it on paper first, then type and post.

WHO (parties involved)
WHAT (the problem[s] is)
WHERE (e.g., your home, your parent's house)
WHEN (e.g., recently, last year, now)
WHY (reason[s] that precipitated the conflict)

Giving up is not an option in this forum Lori, so give it a shot. Good luck.

-- ED

Lori, I understand what you were saying. Mom is obsessed with going. I f she does not have a BM every day, she'll have a panic attack and keep trying to go until she does. It's a very bad issue to have to deal with, because they don't understand that they will go eventually. Try giving him 1 or 2 stool softeners every day. You may end up with a different problem, but he won't be using your son's toothbrush to dig for gold!
Hang in there. We do the best we can to help each other out here. There is bound to be someone who is dealing with the same problems as you.
Take care, and go get some stool softeners!

Lori, is there any legal action that you can take against your brother? And for sure, get your dad on stool softeners...
I would put him in a nursing home if it were me, where they keep track of that stuff and administer the meds. Your first priority is to your husband and children, so if it's becoming unsafe for them to be around your parents, then they have to be moved. Sorry, it sucks I know...

aww some people just dont understand some lanaugae , i understood her very well , wish i saw this the other day .
yes hon give ur mother some stool softner and keep ur kids and urself tooth brush up and hide them , u will have to hide alot of stuff .
it takes alot of work t o care for 2 both parents and 2 small childrens plus ur work and urself and household , list goes on and on and on .
soon u will fall apart . as for ur small children they will notremeber what s going on . maybe they will .
i dont think i could do it . i tried takin care of 3 grandkids and plus pa . it was hard and i dont think i could do that everyday .
god bless you and ask the lord to give u strength and blessing ....

There are now yogurts with fiber, Ativia has a line of fiber yogurts. I mix some fiberous ginger snaps with yogurt with one of those stick blenders. My mom went through this poop-picking stage for about a year, where every toilet visit she TRIED to get at it. I don't know what changed...she forgot about this behavior perhaps. With dementia, when there is a new sensation, they can take it like they are falling apart. Bowel movements and dentures coming loose are two "I'm dying" triggers for Mom.

It's hard to get it in balance, cause help in one direction gets just the opposite. Oh, seedless red grapes for snacks will get things loosened up. In summer, I freeze them...great treats.

You have a lot to sort out there. It must be so frustrating and exhausting.

Hey Lori,

Everyone is trying to help, try not to be sad. this is rough and we all know it.

Write back and tell us how you're doing! We do care!

Bobbie

Two words about that yogurt Activia:

WATCH OUT!