Support group for death of an adult child

Hello Devon Dee:

There are simply no words to make the pain go away from the death of a child - no matter what the age. It was wonderful that you were able to be close to her for so long. I am sure there are many wonderful memories that you will carry for a lifetime. Keep those memories alive by memorializing her in a way that she would love. Was she an outdoors person? Plant a tree in her memory in a favorite place. Did she love children? Donate something meaningful to a children's center. Were animals important to her? Work with the local pet adoption center in her honor. All of these things will help keep her memory alive.

Don't go it alone. Read a few of the many books that are out there about grieving the death of a child. And find a support group with which to share your feelings and experiences. Here is a good resource for that:

The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
P. O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
Toll-free: 877-969-0010

Finally, I have found that spirituality plays a big role in overcoming loss.

Your daughter and you will forever have a bond that goes beyond this lifetime.

Thank you momof5 I will contact the group you mentioned, please keep me and my family in your prayers.

My Dear, I also lost my beloved son of 38 yrs unexpectedly this past May 29, '08. He had an alcohol problem and went into a medical detox facility and for reasons unknown fell into a coma and one week later died in my arms. I adored him; he was my world and universe. His death has crushed me as we had an exceptionally close relationship. His 3 month anniversary of his death is coming up and I am still suffering more than ever. I go to therapy once a week and have attended grief support groups which I did not care for. I don't know if my one on one therapy helps my suffering and pain, but it is a place to cry and unload your guilt and express your love for your child. I am not afraid of the pain; I miss my son for he ruled my heart.

Hello, I am so glad to find you. My son who was 33 died unexpectedly at our home. I found him, he had been ill, but was getting better and his death was unexpected. Tomorrow it will be one year since his death on 9/17/08. Our other son and his wife moved home from Virginia and have been staying with us, but this weekend they move to their own home. So life goes on, and I know that, and I have good days. But sometimes I am simply overwhelmed with the thought that he is gone, and the sadness. I will hold you all in my heart

Susan

I must confess that for me, my dear son's death is overwhelming me. I find his absence in my life unbearable. I was so close to him that now I feel I cannot go on without him. This Sept. 29th will be his 4 month anniversary of his unexpected death. I have been going to therapy since his death, but it hasn't truly helped me. I can't seem to feel I should live for my dear husband or my dear daughter.

I lost my son this month. He was 42 and had a loving family. He was a Coast Guard pilot and his hellicoptor went down in a terrible accident. The pain I feel is so bad that I don't know what to do. I feel not only for myself but for his wife and children who adored him.
I have always turned to my faith in times of crises but this time I just cannot
because I don't understand why it had to happen.
I know I am a mess and I don't expect anyone to"fix" it but I just wanted to talk to someone who would understand this type of loss.
Thank you for listening,
Kay

I feel for you, kaymiss, as I completely understand the pain you are going through. Like you, I don't understand why my dear son had to die especially under the circumstances where he went for help for his alcohol problem, was in basically good health at 38 yrs. and ended up dying. This was not suppose to happen. I am a mess like you

To all the other parents who have lost an adult child

Most of us have thought we would pass from this life before our children...
but sometimes it is not so. Sometimes the unexpected happens.
None of us know when it will be our time to pass but one thing is certain...we will all leave this life ...sooner or later. God has longer missions for some than others.
I just ask everyday for the Lord to guide and direct me to be able to finish what He placed me here to do. Our children's lives are also ordained by God too, so We must just celebrate everyday we have with them, and if their mission is complete, then we must thank God for the opportunity that we had as their parents and the gift they were as A Child Of God on loan to us.
We must continue on the journey of life ... never giving up but encouraging those around us. Your smile may be the only one that a needy soul sees.

I lost my son almost two weeks ago from drowning he was out fishing on his boat and some how fell over.
33 years old correcttion officer in a prison had a wonderful future ahead of him planed on getting married he was such a nice kid everyone loved my danny my husband and i are so broken up over his death he was our baby youngest of seven kids. I don't get it why take him he did so much on earth helping people, working with spicial needs kids I need to find out these answers if there is any answers.