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I thought that this issues had been laid to rest months ago, but today my mother calls about going home. I've been through several experiences of my mother calling about wanting to check out of the nursing home to go back to her house, but that was early in her experience there like June, July, August. Today, I get a call completely out of the blue leaving a message on my cell phone that she wants me to check her out so that she can go home. She's not in any condition to go home. I'm planning to visit up there later today and am choosing to address this then instead of calling her back on the phone. I was planning on going up there anyhow to tend to some business.
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Aleeta
Dec 14, 2009
Be consistent. State clearly the circumstances that prevent her from resuming her life as it used to be. Don't argue, don't get emotional. Acknowledge her feelings, but keep re-stating the reasons she can no longer live independently. Don't think the desire will ever leave her mind, even if she does eventually seems to accept her situation.
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Thanks, I do wonder if her husband's helper does not keep bringing this up herself since she does not believe in nursing homes. I answered mom's request by telling her that i could understand her desire to go home particularly around Christmas time, but that Dr. Deans had said her health would require 3 intensive care trained nurses to watch over her 24 hours a day at home and that it did not appear that she was healthy enough to go home. Well, that satisfied her and we moved on to another topic.
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