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anne123
Jodi, Is your Mom saying "no" to having the spots on her lung checked out?
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Yes, I see now that that is what she is doing---Your mom doesn't want to proceed with the tests to determine what the spots on her lung are. That is what I have found is so difficult about caring for my parents----getting their ccoperation, when their minds aren't what they used to be. Just at the time when we need them to be rational and ccoperative, some of them are losing that ability. That make our job doubly hard. That's why it's so important for us to get outside help, from friends, relatives, and websites like this. I discovered that "senior helpers" are becoming more prevalent----When I called a local senior/nursing home , they gave me the name of a gal who has her own little business of helping out seniors, in a multitude of ways. This woman was a huge help to me, in moving my parents from their home to a senior facility. I am an only child, and it would have been to overwhelming for just me to do. If you call local hospitals, council on aging, senior communities, perhaps they could put you in touch with one of these "senior helpers."
SecretSister
O, Anne, my heart hurts for you and your mom! Will be praying for both of you. We're here when you need to vent. Let us know how everything goes, and if there's anything else we can do. Bless you, dear lady!
cindybrownlbsw
This may be the time to investigate hospice for your mom's best interest. Hospice is not only for pain control and comfort measures, they provide equipment, support, respite and education for your family and your mom. The hospice team can make the rest of this journey a beautiful time for her and you. It's not giving up - it's reaching out to take a helping hand.
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naheaton
My mother has had cancer numerous times in her life. Tuesday she is going to have a rare aggressive cancer taken off her lip. They have found spots on her lungs, cysts in her pancreas, and now something in her liver. She is going to have the cancer taken off her lip because that's a for sure thing, but the other stuff I think she's going to pass on. She's 81 and I don't believe she has the inclination to want to do anything about the other things that the doctors have found. She has her brain, but I think she's just had it with cancer as a whole. It drives me crazy for her to not know if it's cancer or not, but she is not as hopped up to know as we are. As with anyone, if they have their wits about them, they should be able to make these decisions on their own. Doesn't mean we have to like it though....
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