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support74
May 25, 2010
You could create a memory book if your father is deceased. I did that recently for my mother, who passed away in March 2008. It is a wonderful written memorial of her life. I compiled entries from my siblings, interviewed relatives and brought it all together. i had a graphic designer do a superb layout and voila - a great memory book. If you would like something like that for your father, let me know and I can guide you through it.
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pamela6148
I lost my dad in 1972. He was always so encouraging. He was maticulous, and as neat as he could be. When he cooked, and served he would make the plate sing by decorating it and it seemed to come alive. He was the most compassionate person I have ever known. I loved to see him shine his shoes, and always looked for that in a man, (silly I know but to me theres nothing like shinny shoes). He loved his family, and loved his job and was wonderful at supplying for his family.
From time to time people were not as nice to him as I thought they should have been yet I constantly saw him ignore that aspect in people and focus in on the fact that their shortcomings were not his, they were theirs. There were times when I wanted to step in, AS A CHILD, to speak my peace, but my dad always said "A CHILDS PLACE IS WHERE A CHILD SHOULD STAY". He would further say that if a person is bitter, miserable, and seems to always have vengence in their heart, then their children will become the same way.
Somehow along the way I'd forgotten those words, but I'm glad I came back to that place of tranquility and got back to being a good humanitarian so that my sons have a much nicer, understanding and wise role model.
Yep I learned a lot from my sourthern gentleman father.
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AlwaysMyDuty
My dad was wonderful. I adored him and still to this day. He was kind, gentle and caring, he set a good example. He had a heart of gold. He loved me unconditionally. The day he died was the saddest day of my life. He lives on in me and my kids and we feel so blessed to have had him in our lives.support74, the memory book is a grand idea. I'm going to do that, thanks for the suggestion. What a beautiful tribute!pamela, my father was a southern gentleman too. Here's to you Dad. I love you and miss you.
WHAT IS A FARMER? What is a farmer? In all business there are no other men just like farmers.Farmers are a diminishing class of specialists who do many things well. They come in all sizes,shapes,colors,and ages. Farmers are eternal optimists who expect that the next year will bring better conditions than the floods or droughts or freezes or insect infestations they may have endured every year in the past. Farmers can keep a $15,000 machine working with a piece of baling wire,an off-size bolt,and the lid from an old tin can.FARMERS don't belong to unions,don't have 40-hour work weeks,don't need sleeping pills,and don't like neckties or fast talkers. Farmers witness the miracle of birth and the uncertainty of death and sense an order behind it all. Farmers are men to teach sons and daughters responsibility and workmanship before the youngsters move to the city and go to work in industry. Farmers see the sunrise and walk alone under the stars;they are strenghtened by faith in a higher being.Farmers are patience in overalls waiting for the rain to stop, for seeds to sprout or for a calf to be born. Farmers are practical family men who are sincere and natural and don't try to appear as something they are not. Farmers risk all the hazards of other businesses and,in addition,endure the uncertainties of weather,insects,disease,and politicians. Farmers are persistence with a sun bronzed face,starting to age after a hail storm has wiped out a years work. Farmers are exhaustion with 326 bales that must must be lifted and hauled to the barn after dark before lying down to rest.Farmers are the kind of courageous,hard-working pesistent, practical,fairminded men that other men imagine themselves to be. Finally,farmers are the brunt of jokes,the whipping boy of editors, and the sacrificial lamb of politicians. In spite of all the criticism farmers get,an indication of what people really think is revealed in the fact that almost every man considers himself a farmer at heart.. DEDICATED TO MY DAD WHO WAS A FARMER.
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Always great tribute! Nothing like those southeners!
SUPPORT 74, That is a great idea to do for anyone you loved esp. if you have children,so many memories get lost after we die,but I'm after bigger and better things for my dad,this was just a small beginning.I've taken advice from some of the wise ones on this forum and have decided not to go it alone,and have gotten assistance from some of the big dogs.Ladies you know who you are and thank-you for the encouragement-I would have never asked for help without some of ya'lls imput.Nothing is settled yet,but the ball is rolling in the right direction.
Hi,I am tennessee's daughter.I am 10 years old.-(This is a tribute to my dad.) My dad was a great man. He was always there for me.I loved him so much and I hope he is with his dog in heaven.My dad loved motorcycles.One time he even snuck me on the motorcycle without mom knowing.I told her though.My dad was a tree doctor and he grew trees (very nice japanese maples and others).We love trees and wildlife.It was so sad when he died of cancer.I miss him so much.My dad was VERY funny.He had a lot of dogs.He also had some turtles and hermit crabs. We put flowers on his grave every week.We put birdhouses up also and bluebirds have been coming for a few years.My little yorkie even put her rib bone on his grave.(she really was enjoying it and she still put it on his grave.)
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Support I'm agreeing with Always. That memory book is a good idea. I think I'm going to work on that as well.
Thanks for suggesting that.
linda09
May 26, 2010
tenn and daughter , wonderful ! love what i read , bless your heart ! daddy s so proud of u girls ! xoxo
Bobbi
Tennessee, you should submit what you wrote somewhere. You paint a picture with words that would do any farmer proud.
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