About me
My mother had several years of seizures and increasing dementia. Her neurologist and home health workers wanted her to go to assisted living but she refused. She and my step-dad hid from everyone until 2009 the fact that they had not paid taxes since 2004. :(
In March of 2009, my mother suffered a stroke and the next month, she fell and broke her hip which required surgery. Since May of 2009, my mother has lived in a nursing home in a city an hour away from me where her home is in which my 86 year old step-dad lives by himself in a wheel chair. She refuse to work with the PT people and her dementia has recently gotten much worse. My mother turned 79 in July and her 80 year old brother died 2 weeks ago.
I am so glad that my mother bought long term health insurance after her mother died in 1996 and put it on auto-draft from her personal banking account. It is no longer being drafted for monthly premiums and those have recently gone higher.
I'm my mother's only child. She wisely gave me both Durable and Medical POA in 2002, but with her decline in 2004 and my going on disability in 2003, we both forgot those documents existed. Thus, we had them created by the same lawyer in February of 2009. I have my mother's will for which I'm the executor and the sole inheritor.
I'm 53. My wife (55) and I both live on disability and live about an hour drive. Our oldest son is a sophomore in college in the Air Froce ROTC with a scholarship and our youngest son is a high school senior who is having a time dealing with his ADHD.
I've been in therapy for my bi-polar disorder and depression since 2002. For the last several years, I've also been dealing with family of origin issues related to both my mother and my father. Funny how things like this come to the front when our parents decline.