How to Choose the Best Adult Diaper

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Absorbent products, sometimes called "adult diapers" help caregivers to manage incontinence in their eldery parents. Absorbent products are not a treatment of incontinence, but rather a management tool.

If your parent has incontinence, it is always important to speak to a medical professional so that they can properly diagnose incontinence and rule out any serious underlying cause, and help you find the treatment option that works best for your parent. Sometimes there may not be an appropriate treatment option available that can lessen or even cure incontinence in the elderly.

Finding the Right Product

There are many factors to consider when choosing an absorbent product: flexibility for your parent's activity level; products for men or for women; size; absorbency level; disposable vs. reusable.

Take all these factors into consideration when looking for a product. You might even find that one product is best for at night, another for during the day, and a third for being out and active, like going for walks.

Try not to look at the price tags first and instead choose based on your needs. You might even find that a more expensive product will give you better coverage and thus cost you less in the long run.

About "Booster Pads"

Booster pads can be purchased as liners for absorbent briefs, increasing the absorbency and protection. It's important to note that unlike regular pads, boosters don't have a waterproof backing. After the booster fills to capacity, the overflow will flow thru to the absorbent brief beneath.

About Skin Care

Keeping the skin that comes into contact with urine or a bowel movement clean and dry is important. When changing absorbent products wash the perineal area with mild soap (not deodorant) and warm water, then pat the skin dry (do not rub). Application of a skin ointment can further protect the skin.

Avoid Using Menstrual Pads

Many women use menstrual pads when they begin to experience incontinence. Menstrual pads aren't designed to absorb urine and don't provide the coverage and protection that pads designed for incontinence will provide.

Shop from Home

Often, people are embarrassed to purchase absorbent products at their neighborhood drug or grocery store. You may want to consider using a service that delivers these products to your home. They usually come in an unmarked box, and sometimes the company will mail you free or low-cost samples if you ask.

If you need to manage incontinence with absorbent products, however, here are some pros and cons that you're likely to encounter:

The Pros

  • Absorbent products can be bought at a local drugstore or through a home-delivery service. 
  • The products offer the security of knowing that should leakage occur, something is in place to absorb it. 
  • For some people with incontinence, absorbent products are a more appealing option than surgery or medication.

The Cons

  • There is an ongoing cost associated with using products. 
  • Your eldery parent may feel self-conscious using the products due to possible bulkiness or noise. 
  • Many people feel embarrassed buying the products.

Talking about Incontinence

When addressing the issue with your elderly parent, its best to be blunt. Unfortunately, incontinence is an issue that many elders must face. Although buying adult diapers can be embarassing, the alternative -- having an accident in public -- could be worse.
 


Information provided by the Simon Foundation, an organization that advocates on behalf of people with loss of bladder and bowel control.

 
 

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helpingagnes

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Apr 21, 2009

The elderly woman I take care of wears the above mentioned pads inside of belted disposable underwear. Then she pulls up a disposable diaper over top of it all. Also, she layers toilet paper squares on top of the pad. Is this really the most effective way of dealing with incontinence????

She says I don't understand when I try to discuss it with her.

Any advice appreciated. I have talked to the urologist but he was dumbfounded.

 
 

dmtzsc

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Apr 21, 2009

need some advice: we have been caring for MIL for 5 years now. She is now very incontinant. We buy the pull up style adult diapers, however she REFUSES to wear them. It is a constant battle. We are cleaning up and doing laundry sometimes 3-4 times a day. And she never tells us she made a mistake so the house / her room always smells awful. HELP! Oh, BTW, she is SOOOOOOOOOOO hard-headed. When we try to talk to her about this, it's not her problem and "Just put me away then"
We are tired of the smell and tired of laundry, tired of cleaning!

 
 

BGB

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Apr 21, 2009

I have the same problem as the both of you, chec this out my grandmother is 87 had a strok about year and half now. before the strok she was going to the bathroom on her own. when she first came home, she was weak, so i got depends because it was easy for me to handle her, and she had a hard time getting up and down. she was on the walker, to the cane, now just holding on to the wall and such. Here's the kicker she can go to the bathroom if she wants. the strok on set Dementia, yes she repeats herself, for the most part. here we go she ask to go to the casino, i took her. not once did she use the depend that day, she ask to go to the bathroom. i said to myself i will check and see if she goes to the bathroom here, guess what not she use that depend as she was a six moth old baby. so i said to here you use the bathroom at the casino. she told me she did not want to wet out in the public.You know i was hot. so here what i do she gets 3depends a day. because a long as i leave the bag in her room she will use 18 in three day. Just a few weeks ago i took her to buffalo to she her ill sister. Your right! she went to the bath room. She can't remember anything but how many depends do she have. During the night she get up and and put clothing between her legs, i ask why you do that, she tells me it keeps her dry. We all know if your wet your wet i don't car how much pading you but on.But that's what she thinks. She thinks putting on all this padding keeps her dry. and i keep trying to tell her is don't, the caretaker that there during the day wash i wash. i can't stand it when i walk in my house and it smells like piss. when she takes it off, she think it's ok to just put it in the hamper. I think i'm going to get one of those things (diaper pals) these mother use for the babies.

BGB

 
 

AlzCaregiver

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Aug 20, 2009

Love it when a Poise pad makes it into the laundry hamper and I don't catch it. What a mess!

 
 

Determin

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Jul 7, 2010

i'm new to the game of care giver but i have found the most increadable product to help control ALL room odors. it is an all natural anti-bacterial, anti-viral room spray made by natural options. i use it when mom does #2 and the smell is horrible..with in seconds i can handle it and clean up isn't as bad...i use it in dad's room because of his horrible smell of urine and body oder. hope this helps you all

 
 

doriegiroux

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Mar 19, 2011

Where do I get the natural options spray?

 
 

Willie75

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Apr 9, 2011

what's programs have free adults diapers in alabama

 
 

Evpraxia

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Apr 11, 2011

Hum, no mention of, dare I say it, Cloth incontinence products? Yes, I just made some belted shields for my 95 yr old FiL and they are working out just great. We were able to get a prototype of a full snap-on under-pant style that he uses at night; though he still gets up between 3-5am. Yes, the initial cost outlay is higher, the long term cost is way down.

We mainly changed for helping to decrease his rash/yeast infection, but also the cost and not filling up the land fills with "disposable" pads.

 
 

JM301

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Jun 22, 2011

My mother has tried the brands First Quality, Tena and Comfort Safe, all three brands make her back itch. Can anyone recommend a brand that is more comfortable. She is very active and hates wearing these because they are uncomfortable

 
 

carlala

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Aug 23, 2011

I have bought several brands of pull ups for my mother
and I havent found one that doesnt leak and get herself
and or her bed wet. The ones the rehab put on her at night are a joke.
Any suggestions?

Mom doesnt have enough warning to get help to her room soon enough to help her to the bathroom and she just cant hold it. I would rather her pee in bed than falling trying to get to the bathroom. She has recently become wheelchair bound and in her mind is having a problem accepting that fact. The Parkinson's Gait always trips her up. Mom will be 85 this month.

 
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