Ignoring feelings of grief, frustration or anger when dealing with home care situations will not help either the caregiver or the care receiver. Understanding that a wide range of human emotions regarding short or long-term care scenarios are normal goes a long way toward relieving such emotions in those dealing with them.
The National Institute of Mental Health suggests that caregivers try to find someone they can talk to or confide in. In this way, more than one pair of shoulders can share the emotional burden of care, regardless of scenario. In addition, if a caregiver experiences changes in eating or sleeping habits, or loses interest in aspects of life or activities they used to take pleasure in, seek help. Don't wait, expecting that things will change in a few days. Often times, days have a way of turning into weeks, and then months.
"It's important to set limits," says Donna Benton, a geropsychologist at the University of Southern California. "Caregivers often do not set boundaries." Saying no to ever-growing requests and expectations is one of the best things that a stressed out caregiver can do – for themselves and their families. A caregiver needs to be able to express their needs and be very specific." Everyone needs a break once in a while. This is nothing to feel inadequate or guilty about.
Don't expect to be able to do everything. Setting realistic goals and breaking large tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks often helps to relieve the stress of trying to get everything done in a short period of time. Various coping strategies are suggested for all caregivers, especially those caring for victims suffering from various stages of Alzheimer's.
- Learn to say "no"
- Try to maintain a sense of humor
- Realize limitations to physical and emotional endurance
- Take care of your health
If you decide that talking with a professional is the way to go, you can check with your health insurance company for a list of providers that are covered under your plan. In addition, check with your Area Agency on Aging (it's listed in your local phone book) to see if there are resources they recommend.
Discussing the emotional as well as physical challenges of providing quality care for your loved one with friends, family members, family counselors or religious figures is vital to long-term health, emotional stability and peace of mind. While a caregiver is focused on providing loving care for a parent, a spouse, or other member of the family, don't forget to take care of yourself in the process.
Denise Clark has written about health and medical issues, including caring for seniors. She has experience as a certified nursing assistant who has worked a long-term care facility for geriatric residents.