Here are some ideas to keep in mind:
• Take care of yourself. Grief can be hard on your health. Try to eat right, exercise, and get enough sleep. Avoid bad habits such as drinking too much alcohol or smoking that can put your health at risk. Be sure to take your medicines as your doctor ordered. Remember to see the doctor for your usual visits.
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• Talk to caring friends. Let your family and friends know when you want to talk about your husband or wife. It may help to be with people who let you say what you're feeling.
• Join a grief support group. Sometimes it helps to talk to people who are also grieving. Check with hospitals, religious groups, and local government agencies to find out about support groups.
• Try not to make any major changes right away. It's a good idea to wait for a while before making big decisions like moving or changing jobs.
• See your doctor. If you're having trouble taking care of your everyday activities, like getting dressed or fixing meals, talk to your doctor.
• Don't think you have to handle your grief alone. Sometimes short-term talk therapy with a counselor can help.
• Remember your children are grieving, too. You may find that your relationship with your children has changed. It will take time for the whole family to adjust to life without your spouse.
• Remember—mourning takes time. It's common to have rollercoaster emotions for a while.