I'm so sorry for you. I know it is so hard to watch a loved one choke. It happened with my father too and scared the daylights out of me. Unfortunately, when swallowing becomes impaired and choking begins it is usually a sign that the dementia is progressing further. Be sure to report this symptom to her doctor ASAP and ask about using a thickening agent in her liquids, which helps some patients quite a bit. She will probably start to lose weight now too, so discuss with the doctor about adding a product like Ensure Plus (365 calories a can) with the thickening agent.
Whenever my father ate, I had to sit with him and remind him to slow down or otherwise he would shovel food in so fast anyone would choke, with or without dementia. A couple times when I wasn’t there, a caregiver I hired even had to give my father the Heimlich Maneuver—so be sure you know how to perform that in case of an emergency. I suggest that you always cut up your wife’s food into very small portions before giving it to her. Also, make sure she is sitting up straight before she begins eating. And with each bite, calmly and lovingly remind her to slow down and chew thoroughly, and hopefully that will help keep her from choking.
Jacqueline Marcell is the author “Elder Rage” and host of the radio talk show “Coping With Caregiving.” You can learn more about Jacqueline and find information about her book at www.ElderRage.com.
plgalb
Jul 22, 2008 Suggest Removal
We are giving my mother Ensure, however she says she wants to eat and we give her small amounts of food. She sucks on them and spits them back out. She wears dentures and we can not tell if it is her dentures or if she can't swallow. She won't tell us. Any ideas?
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Hi plgalb, I am the caregiver of my brother-in-law who has dementia and we too have had this problem, He just forgets to chew his food so I have started putting his food in the blender and I have to constantly tell him to take small bites and chew it very good. It seems to be helping with him. And I also put some icecream in the ensure and make a shake out of it and he likes it that way, maybe you could try that. Hope this will help with you also.Brenda
cindy98989
Aug 12, 2008 Suggest Removal
Hi..My dad was just diagnosed with Aspiration, which is when he eats food particles and liquid are going into his windpipe/lungs instead of his esophagus (sp) causing him to choke. This can also cause pneumonia because the elderly do not have a strong enough immune system to fight off bacteria and break down the food particles. It causes him to choke when he eats too fast. You might want to check and see if this could be part of your mothers problem. Here is what we have done to avoid the choking:
Cut food in smaller piecesSlow down when eating, he shovels it in like someone is going to take it away from him.Make him chew his food good. If your mom wears dentures make sure they are secure in her mouth and not slipping when she chews.The most important one of all is get them in the habit of lowering their head into their chest when swallowing. This closes off the windpipe so that food particles have a harder time getting into it and are forced into the esophagus to the stomach.
Aspiration is very common in the elderly because the muscles in their throats get weak and don't function as they should. The dementia doesn't help the situation and can lead to Aspiration if they don't already have it which is what happened to my dad. The hospital said a feeding tube is about the only way besides changing eating habits that will help. Even with a feeding tube they are still in danger because saliva will still go into the lungs. At 87 years old I was not going to take away the only thing my father has left that he enjoys doing and that is eating. With constant reminders to chew, put your head down, dad is eating this way like its routine now, and has not had any problems with choking at all. Hope this helps, and good luck to you. Cindy
ChickPea
Aug 13, 2008 Suggest Removal
I fully agree with the suggestions above. The position of the 'eater', especially sitting up straight with upright head and neck, can be crucial. We found the height of the table to chair was a factor too. Food 'size' and consistency is also essential to consider. 'Thick and Easy' is a tasteless thickening agent (a powder) that you can use with both hot and cold liquids. Good for getting an appropriate consistency for soups, stews and sweet dishes as well. Shouldn't need a prescription, but was certainly easier to get once prescribed (also then came without charge). Even just a little - hardly enough to notice if your swallowing is normal - can make a profound difference for someone with swallowing difficulties. My Father-in-law's swallowing could be very variable - he could have several days of no problems at all, then profound - and horrendous - choking. Apparently unrelated to tiredness, denture-fitting, head and neck position or food consistency. Like cindy98989 above, we felt very strongly that eating was one of his last enjoyments in life, so were not keen to change to liquids-only. And if we had tried a naso-gastric tube, he would have removed it. Using a smaller spoon helped restrict the amount of food he took in a mouthful, but he still needed close supervision to try and stop the next 3 mouthfuls going in before he swallowed.....
Aug 14, 2008 Suggest Removal
Chickpea, I literally had to hold my fathers hand to keep him from shoveling more food in his mouth before swallowing what he had in there already. After about a week of constantly sitting with him I have now gotten him in the habit (unless its something he loves to eat) of putting his spoon or fork down after each bite. I felt like a broken record says "Small bites, slow down, chew it good, head down and swallow" but it's working and we haven't had any problems with food going into his lungs or aspiration pneumonia since. With liquids is rather difficult for them to keep their heads down and swallow but I find a straw does the trick pretty well. We have not used thickeners on dads liquids as of yet. He hasn't had any problems choking on liquids...thank God! If he should start, that will be our next course of action.
sooz
Aug 15, 2008 Suggest Removal
when some of you say 'head down', you are actually saying CHIN down. a very imortant clarification. yes, the straw idea works great too. we used thick-it [a powder used to thicken drinks] for maybe 20 years. it was wonderful. also, i had to invest in 5 food choppers to pulverize his meals to help with swallowing. this also worked great for many years. hamburger, rice and the like are too firm to actually get smooth enough for swallowing. it's something you just do a trial
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I know how hard that is because my normally sweet mother did the same stubborn thing. She had been so sick she’d gotten down to 82 pounds, yet would clinch her teeth when I got half way through feeding her.
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