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Maxine :) I'm struggling with it though but she wanted to be in charge, so now she can be. Tnx for your support. How've you been?

I agree

Thanks for the hug and right back atchya.
You guys (I'm on the other coast) are my support group. I know she won't change-what is hardest for me right now is the issue of money (being unemployed and spending my savings to live) and the fact that she's controlling me with that. If I could find a way to relieve THAT somewhat I could be much stronger regarding the monster downstairs.

I understand the son staying, mine is staying with me as well. He was laid off, and couldn't afford his apt anymore so I let him come live with me, (you know a child can always go home). Well he's back at work, thanks to me who made sure of that, and it's amazing how a job can make a person feel so much better about themselves.

How the heck are you? We haven't spoken in a while so I thought I'd stop by and say hello. I've been thinking about you though. You're always in my prayers.

Today is somewhat bettter, thanks. I had to escape from reality a bit last night in my man cave in order to get my anger down and escape temporarily from the real world.

Sorry to hear that your husband such mama's boy who must of have been much more parentified by his mother than I was spousified by my mother. I know about walking on egghsells around spouse and MIL, but I'm so glad she got some serious therapy to get her where she is now, plus the therapy that I've gotten.

Mama's girls and mama's boys sure get messed up when it comes to being married and having elderly mothers. To me and my anger putting one's commitment and emotional attachment to one's parent's above one's spouse is adultery and above one's children is both neglect as well as abandonment. I'm glad to be on this site for it sure seems like my life experiences are helpful to many people here.

Reading Dede's story tonight made me want to post in big letters. Notice to all wives on this site, don't feel bad about putting your husband and children before your mother. In behalf of all ex and current husbands, 'dear wives you an't married to ya mamma" For some reason tonight, I so strunge out emotionally and physically that I'm very close to calling a certain thing just as much an affair that destroys a marriage as what is the common stereotype. I feel sorry for the often abandoned children too I'd also congratulate those who have not made such mistakes or have learned from them.

Thanks for the hug. What a painfull story. You're right Abusers like in your case abuse people they are dependent upon and often it's the weaker abusing the stronger for they feel like we can and will 'take it', plus sometimes we do out of walking on eggshells. Also, like a book by the same title says, "Hurt People, Hurt People"

I'm not sure what I said that triggered the hug, but as crazzy at this day has been, I'm glad to get a cyberhug.

Thanks. I will keep in touch and let you know how things work out for me:)

hey Maxine! We're not leaving you behind... You're comingwith us!!

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